"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Fighting Angry vs Fighting Calm

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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“The most important of these skills, and power’s crucial foundation, is the ability to master your emotions. An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings. Emotions cloud reason, and if you cannot see the situation clearly, you cannot prepare for and respond to it with any degree of control. Anger is the most destructive of emotional responses, for it clouds your vision the most. It also has a ripple effect that invariably makes situations less controllable and heightens your enemy’s resolve. If you are trying to destroy an enemy who has hurt you, far better to keep him off-guard by feigning friendliness than showing your anger.”

Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power
 

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I didn't know they made a sequel to that movie. The first one was pretty awful. It was The Karate Kid with an mma plot.

One problem with rage is that it dumps all your adrenaline and you gas out in about 30 seconds. Another problem is that the more tense you are, the more it hurts to get hit, slammed, and have your joints twisted in the wrong direction. A good comparison is the way that drunk people tend to fare better in car crashes. Tense people don't punch as hard, either.

The two most common pieces of advice from any good mma corner man is going be RELAX and BREATHE. Those two things will make a huge difference.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
I didn't know they made a sequel to that movie. The first one was pretty awful. It was The Karate Kid with an mma plot.

One problem with rage is that it dumps all your adrenaline and you gas out in about 30 seconds. Another problem is that the more tense you are, the more it hurts to get hit, slammed, and have your joints twisted in the wrong direction. A good comparison is the way that drunk people tend to fare better in car crashes. Tense people don't punch as hard, either.

The two most common pieces of advice from any good mma corner man is going be RELAX and BREATHE. Those two things will make a huge difference.
Holy words, despite my experience in martial arts is not as hugh as Bible's one I still can confirm that, most of the fights are won or lost according to the gas more than the strengh.

Being raging is like pushing the throttle and fight like a god for few seconds then finding yourself in debt of air where any man still in control of his body can strike easily.

Just see those raging guys fight at the club, they hold each other for few seconds trying to throw the other down only the breathless right after.
 

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yeah, IF they are stupid enough to be grappling. but if they are busting knees with kicks, gouging eyes, headbutting, biting, etc, the damage will be done in a VERY few seconds. which is why mma is bs as training. It's a show, just like wrestling and boxing are shows. If the matches ended in 1-2 seconds, with 1 or both guys ruined for life, there'd soon be no paying audience.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Imagine a big huge pan filled with boiling water. There will be a lot of steam coming from the pan, but it will have no power and just flow around in the air aimlessly and ineffectively.

But when you put a lid on that pan, let the steam build up under it and then make a little opening in the lid, then the steam will be squeezed through that little opening and have a strong force.

In other words, when you can direct the steam and focus it all into one direction, in a controlled manner, than it can deliver great force and be very effective.


The same goes for anger/rage. When you can't control it, it will work against you in fighting. But if you learn how to direct it and channel it into your movements, then it can be a great and EFFECTIVE force.

Blind rage is a disadvantage in a fight, but focused rage will aid you in a fight.
 

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This remind me of what bruce lee said, he said be like water, water is the soft and gentle, but at the same time water has the force to bust through walls like raging rivers.
 
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