"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Chamber36

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my game is weak or not quite strong enough.

Went to the club last night. Saw 2 babes that I'd never met. They greeted me at first. So I followed them into the smoking section. We had a little chit-chat and I made them laugh a bit. They made a joke about dancing and acting drunk like they were 16, I negged them: "you look far from 16".

They then went to the bar. I sat at the other side of the bar next to my boss. Eventually a drunk annoying guy called them over to sit next to him(and me too). The hot one came and sat next to me. She even asked: "can I sit here? Is that alright with you?" I responded: "Of course!"

Anyway, I talked to them, but then the barman came along and sort of seduced them. At first I was like: "alright! Go and talk to them!", and he gave me a kinda scared look for half a second, even though I know him.

Anyway I could tell they were getting kinda hot & bothered with him. Eventually I got pretty genuinely jealous, a little frustrated.

I quit talking to them at that point.

What a bunch of **** girls. They eventually ran off to the dance floor, didn't see them after that.

They did stay till the bar closed though.

After the bar closed I talked to the barman, and he said he hadn't gotten pvssy in months. He said how he's 27 and the girls are all 18 and don't really want anything to do with him. Kind of ironic according to the DJ theory, and this guy has tons of game really.

He is a douchebag, but he's got plenty humor.

Anyway I could have tried some "barman destroyer game'", but that's just not congruent with me as I sort of looked up to him, which was my failure I suppose.

Fvck him I'll find drunk *****es at the club in Amsterdam next time for myself.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheException

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My suggestion would be to just start talking to more people. The only reason you feel like sh1t is because you feel like you failed since you only talked to one group of girls and its didnt go well.

Talk to so many people that you dont end up focusing on only one girl.
 

Chamber36

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TheException said:
My suggestion would be to just start talking to more people. The only reason you feel like sh1t is because you feel like you failed since you only talked to one group of girls and its didnt go well.

Talk to so many people that you dont end up focusing on only one girl.
Yeah I would have to agree, but she was the only babe in the place that I didnt know already.

I'm over it now, but you are right: talk to more people.

I think she was actually trying to make me jealous from the blatant way she was checking out the barman. I tried my best not to let it get to me, but the babe was hot, and she kinda ruined the sparks when she tried to make me jealous. I am not one to compete with guys for a chick.

The guy has just escalated so quickly with kino and asking their names, I quit showing interest. I suppose I let those girls step on my d*ck.

I figure if they prefer the barman they can have the barman. Fvck em.

Anyway, the answer is to just approach more women. Next time.
 

Gunner26

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Maybe try and hit up a new area or bar if you knew most of the people in there. To me it sounds like you almost had too much social proof. For me I like to have a healthy mix of people I know and don't know, it keeps it interesting.

Gunner
 
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