"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Chamber36

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my game is weak or not quite strong enough.

Went to the club last night. Saw 2 babes that I'd never met. They greeted me at first. So I followed them into the smoking section. We had a little chit-chat and I made them laugh a bit. They made a joke about dancing and acting drunk like they were 16, I negged them: "you look far from 16".

They then went to the bar. I sat at the other side of the bar next to my boss. Eventually a drunk annoying guy called them over to sit next to him(and me too). The hot one came and sat next to me. She even asked: "can I sit here? Is that alright with you?" I responded: "Of course!"

Anyway, I talked to them, but then the barman came along and sort of seduced them. At first I was like: "alright! Go and talk to them!", and he gave me a kinda scared look for half a second, even though I know him.

Anyway I could tell they were getting kinda hot & bothered with him. Eventually I got pretty genuinely jealous, a little frustrated.

I quit talking to them at that point.

What a bunch of **** girls. They eventually ran off to the dance floor, didn't see them after that.

They did stay till the bar closed though.

After the bar closed I talked to the barman, and he said he hadn't gotten pvssy in months. He said how he's 27 and the girls are all 18 and don't really want anything to do with him. Kind of ironic according to the DJ theory, and this guy has tons of game really.

He is a douchebag, but he's got plenty humor.

Anyway I could have tried some "barman destroyer game'", but that's just not congruent with me as I sort of looked up to him, which was my failure I suppose.

Fvck him I'll find drunk *****es at the club in Amsterdam next time for myself.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheException

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My suggestion would be to just start talking to more people. The only reason you feel like sh1t is because you feel like you failed since you only talked to one group of girls and its didnt go well.

Talk to so many people that you dont end up focusing on only one girl.
 

Chamber36

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TheException said:
My suggestion would be to just start talking to more people. The only reason you feel like sh1t is because you feel like you failed since you only talked to one group of girls and its didnt go well.

Talk to so many people that you dont end up focusing on only one girl.
Yeah I would have to agree, but she was the only babe in the place that I didnt know already.

I'm over it now, but you are right: talk to more people.

I think she was actually trying to make me jealous from the blatant way she was checking out the barman. I tried my best not to let it get to me, but the babe was hot, and she kinda ruined the sparks when she tried to make me jealous. I am not one to compete with guys for a chick.

The guy has just escalated so quickly with kino and asking their names, I quit showing interest. I suppose I let those girls step on my d*ck.

I figure if they prefer the barman they can have the barman. Fvck em.

Anyway, the answer is to just approach more women. Next time.
 

Gunner26

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Maybe try and hit up a new area or bar if you knew most of the people in there. To me it sounds like you almost had too much social proof. For me I like to have a healthy mix of people I know and don't know, it keeps it interesting.

Gunner
 
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