"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Chamber36

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my game is weak or not quite strong enough.

Went to the club last night. Saw 2 babes that I'd never met. They greeted me at first. So I followed them into the smoking section. We had a little chit-chat and I made them laugh a bit. They made a joke about dancing and acting drunk like they were 16, I negged them: "you look far from 16".

They then went to the bar. I sat at the other side of the bar next to my boss. Eventually a drunk annoying guy called them over to sit next to him(and me too). The hot one came and sat next to me. She even asked: "can I sit here? Is that alright with you?" I responded: "Of course!"

Anyway, I talked to them, but then the barman came along and sort of seduced them. At first I was like: "alright! Go and talk to them!", and he gave me a kinda scared look for half a second, even though I know him.

Anyway I could tell they were getting kinda hot & bothered with him. Eventually I got pretty genuinely jealous, a little frustrated.

I quit talking to them at that point.

What a bunch of **** girls. They eventually ran off to the dance floor, didn't see them after that.

They did stay till the bar closed though.

After the bar closed I talked to the barman, and he said he hadn't gotten pvssy in months. He said how he's 27 and the girls are all 18 and don't really want anything to do with him. Kind of ironic according to the DJ theory, and this guy has tons of game really.

He is a douchebag, but he's got plenty humor.

Anyway I could have tried some "barman destroyer game'", but that's just not congruent with me as I sort of looked up to him, which was my failure I suppose.

Fvck him I'll find drunk *****es at the club in Amsterdam next time for myself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TheException

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My suggestion would be to just start talking to more people. The only reason you feel like sh1t is because you feel like you failed since you only talked to one group of girls and its didnt go well.

Talk to so many people that you dont end up focusing on only one girl.
 

Chamber36

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TheException said:
My suggestion would be to just start talking to more people. The only reason you feel like sh1t is because you feel like you failed since you only talked to one group of girls and its didnt go well.

Talk to so many people that you dont end up focusing on only one girl.
Yeah I would have to agree, but she was the only babe in the place that I didnt know already.

I'm over it now, but you are right: talk to more people.

I think she was actually trying to make me jealous from the blatant way she was checking out the barman. I tried my best not to let it get to me, but the babe was hot, and she kinda ruined the sparks when she tried to make me jealous. I am not one to compete with guys for a chick.

The guy has just escalated so quickly with kino and asking their names, I quit showing interest. I suppose I let those girls step on my d*ck.

I figure if they prefer the barman they can have the barman. Fvck em.

Anyway, the answer is to just approach more women. Next time.
 

Gunner26

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Maybe try and hit up a new area or bar if you knew most of the people in there. To me it sounds like you almost had too much social proof. For me I like to have a healthy mix of people I know and don't know, it keeps it interesting.

Gunner
 
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