"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Field report - Strange

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This field report is different than the others. I had a "success". I got to the point in which I could easily have sex with a woman. I ended up having sex with her, but when I went stick my schlong in, I had it about halfway in and I instantly felt incredibly depressed and uncomfortable.

Maybe it was some spiritual thing that I don't understand, or maybe I just subconsciously know I can do better than her (I'd rate her face maybe a 5 and her body about 6.5).

Keep in mind that my ratings are really, really strict. She looked about average to me. In fact, the way I rate is that 7 is the average "pretty" girl you see. When the girl gets to an 8, she's definitely "hot". At a 9, she's freaking beautiful, and 10 is "perfect", and since nobody is perfect, it's unlikely that I'll ever see a 10 unless she's not even from this dimension.

Anyways, just wondering if anybody else has experienced this.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You didn't really want her, you wanted to know you could do her, then once you did you regretted it since she was just a lay - you feel shallow and weak saddened that this means nothing to you?

Aim for the stars - only go for what you really want. Don't go lower just because you can.
 

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Desdinova said:
Buyer's remorse.
Lol thats what I was trying to say :D
 

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Purefilth said:
You didn't really want her, you wanted to know you could do her, then once you did you regretted it since she was just a lay - you feel shallow and weak saddened that this means nothing to you?

Aim for the stars - only go for what you really want. Don't go lower just because you can.
I figured it was something like that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes, happened to me on NYE. I tried sticking it in, realized I didn't want her and right then she conveniently passed out from all the alcohol so I ejected. Daygamed yesterday and am going after much better targets.
 
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