Field Report: Gotta run to dance class

[Mike32ct]

I stopped at this bar after work for something to eat. I chatted up the bartender lady.

BartenderCougar: Hey Mike. How was work? You gonna have the usual?

Mike: Good thanks. Yes.

BartenderCougar: I loved those Vegas pictures you showed me last week. That's in California right?

Mike: <Facepalm. She's not the brightest bulb on the tree lol.>

Mike: Not exactly hon lol.

<Blonde borderline 8 walks in, maybe 31 yo>

<She grabs some of the free happy hour food>

<Mike is stalling waiting for 6'4" tattooed bf to arrive lol. None arrive.>

<Just open already...>

Mike: How's the food?

HB: Not bad.

Mike: I'm addicted to their buffalo chicken wraps.

BartenderCougarWhoSucksAtGeography: That's his usual order.

HB: I'm new to town. I just moved in to an apartment a few blocks from here.

<Ding. Ding. 2 points>

Mike: where are you from initially?

HB: Born in North Carolina, but spent most of my life in Califonia.

<Near Vegas LOL?>

HB: And you?

Mike: Connecticut native

HB: I LOVE it here. It's so quaint. I love the four seasons.

<It bl@ws dead bears here, but ok honey lol.>

HB: I work and go to school. I spend a lot of time at the library. I'm a book worm. That's probably a turn off. <blush>

<I hope she wears glasses lol.>

Mike: Not at all. I'm an avid reader.

HB: I mean work is important, but I don't believe you should define yourself by your work.

Mike: yeah you need a life ourside of work

Mike: what do you do for fun when you aren't working ?

HB: read and exercise.

HB: I just got out of a relationship. He had different goals.

<bonus points!>

HB: What do you like to do?

Mike: I've been taking ballroom dance.

HB: oh wow. My dad wanted to try that with mom.

<I'm in the "old" category now lol.>

HB: But actually I'd love to try it.

<Ok maybe not >

HB: Do you have to bring someone? I mean you probably go with your girlfriend.

<She assumes that someone would b@ng me raw on the regular lol. Bonus points>

Mike: no you can go alone. They rotate partners.

Mike: My class is tonite. Foxtrot, swing, then salsa.

<Let convo die off on purpose to see if she re initiates it>

HB: I'm trying to assemble my new dresser.

<I'd rather undressher.>

Mike: I'm pretty handy. I just replaced my garbage disposal.

<Mention any project with wires. Chicks are terrified of electricity.>

HB: awesome

<Keeps looking over at me with eyes, but no DTF knees lol.>

<Mike checks time. Time to cash out. I gotta get to dance class soon.>

<Just number close or crash and burn already.>

<Pulls out phone>

Mike: Want to talk sometime?

HB: Are you SURE you don't have a gf?

<Probably IOI.>

Mike: honestly no

HB: ok

HB: Here's my number....

Mike: ok. I gotta run to dance class.

<Touch shoulder>

HB: look forward to hearing from you.


Risk of flaking: high. But overall pretty good

 

[Mike32ct]

Thanks Brad. I agree with your analysis.

 

[VladPatton]

You think she'd flake? I mean that went perfect. She showed interest, you were cool and collected, she's new in town, the number grab was spot on, she knows you got stuff goin on, it all seems good, man.

I hope it all works out for ya, keep us posted.

Good luck!

 

[sageproduct]

Wooo.

Why do you say high chance of flaking? Or are you just setting your expectations low lol?

IOIs for sure, you probably came off as high value and chill. And I guess there was enough implied attraction/covert flirting that she knew this was not just a platonic exchange by saying "Are you sure you don't have a gf."

Btw is your signature about setting up one's life in which he is surrounded by his personal preferred demographics of women?

 

[Masculinity]

Updates?

 

[Mike32ct]

Vlad and Sage:

Even though im doing much better these days , I still have some negative inner game issues I have to work on, so I guess I was assuming the worst. Plus, I didn't want to get too ****y with just a number.

Overall, I'm very happy with the way it went. I think the best sign was her asking if I had a gf at the end. If she didn't find me attractive she wouldn't think I was taken or just wouldn't care either way.

Thanks for the feedback guys.

 

[Mike32ct]

Sage: I'll explain my signature thread...

I think it's really important to develop a gut instinct for WHICH women to approach. Proper target selection comes from experience.

Honestly, I never had a good night when I did 15 approaches. (Although it is good for newbies and for experienced guys to warm up.).

My best nights were when I hung out, had a good time, and like sniper said to myself "THAT is the female I need to talk to."

Use your gut to select targets.

(Sometimes your intuition or hunch is wrong and you can get laid by approaching someone you are sure wont like you. But most if the time, your gut is right.)

The other exception is when you are in a dry spell or losing streak. In that case, you might as well play the numbers game.

 

[Mike32ct]

Robyn: I have no update yet. I haven't texted her yet.

We already met at a bar, so maybe meeting for a drink is redundant?

All: I'm open to any "date" suggestions and how soon to text.

 

[Mike32ct]

The "thumbs down" in the title was by accident lol.

 

[JulieWatson31]

She had obvious interest.

Go and fix her dresser
Take her to the dance class
Then just pull her into your arms.

Strike 3.

 

[Mike32ct]

Brad: Thanks again. You're the best.

Julie: Thanks for the input. I picked up most of those hints. I just didn't want to sound too eager, e.g. "I'll come over and assemble your dresser tonight." I took things a little bit slower by getting the number.

 

[JulieWatson31]

I read through the convo again and there was a ton of interest.

You have a green light so step on the gas or someone else will.

 

[marmel75]

Im wondering if you missed an opportunity to go for an f-close right there when she mentioned she only lived a few blocks away...

"New to town"="I have no d!cks to ride yet"
"Live a few blocks away"="We can go back to my place after a few drinks, its not far"

Honestly I think you should have skipped dance class and taken her back to her place and pounded her senseless...think you took an underhand softball pitch looking you could have hit for a homerun and swung at a fastball and hit a single...

Just my read on the situation...

I would have probably told her "I'm not good at building things but let me know if you need someone to fix your sink..."
There was an old house song by DJ Sneak called "fix that sink" aka code to come
over and lay pipe

"I fix that sink to the left, and I fix that sink to the right and I fix sink on the floor and I fix that sink all night"

 

[Mike32ct]

Marmel: The thought crossed my mind. But honestly, her body language didnt appear to support that. Her torso and knees were facing forward. She just turned her head to talk to me.

Obviously, I could be wrong. Just made a judgement call at the time.

Good point though

 

[marmel75]

Marmel: The thought crossed my mind. But honestly, her body language didnt appear to support that. Her torso and knees were facing forward. She just turned her head to talk to me.

Obviously, I could be wrong. Just made a judgement call at the time.

Good point though

You were talking about food and out of freaking left field she mentions she is new in town, and has an apartment nearby. Had nothing to do with what you were talking about.
I'm saying the chick was DTF or at least would have been...

Nothing a few drinks wouldn't have taken care of...

If she flakes you are gonna be kicking urself in the arse..

Always err on the side of aggression.

 

[Mike32ct]

Hi Marmel. Yes you are correct. I was too conservative.

That's the bad news.

Here is the (possible) good news.

We texted tonight. Her cabinet is put together. She needs help setting up her laptop on Thursday.

If she doesn't flake, I'm gonna make sure I'm not the handyman orbiter. Set up laptop first, will show her some dance moves (similar to my Vegas FR). Then go from there.

 

[marmel75]

Hi Marmel. Yes you are correct. I was too conservative.

That's the bad news.

Here is the (possible) good news.

We texted tonight. Her cabinet is put together. She needs help setting up her laptop on Thursday.

If she doesn't flake, I'm gonna make sure I'm not the handyman orbiter. Set up laptop first, will show her some dance moves (similar to my Vegas FR). Then go from there.

Yeah, she is DTF...the laptop is just an excuse to get you to her place.

Play it cool, relax, do some dance moves with her and then strike like a fvcking viper when the prey gets close enough...

 

[JulieWatson31]

And remember she grew up in Cali. DTF is all they know.

When I was in CT(fairfield area) I found it far more conservative.

They all still want it though but less open about asking