"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Field Report (FR): Friday night fishing with Solomon = E

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Solomon, everyone goes through periods of solitude. Use it as a time to reflect, then get back out there being social after you have used that down time to grow.

Also, you are four years older. You might not have the same drive to be butterflying around the room like that anymore. Nothing wrong with slowing down a bit. Quality over quantity, my friend.
 

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Come on Solo. Once a Jedi, always a Jedi. The most amazing thing in the world is to have it all, lose it, AND THEN get it all back again!

Why?

Anyone can conquer the world, only few can conquer defeat.
 
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