"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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field report. book store pickup with number close!

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ok this came naturally to me today I didn't even plan this! :)

I was at the book store and saw nice girl looking the magazines.

She was in my way and I couldn't grab the mag that I wanted.

So I went up to her and said, "hey move it or... i'll body. 'check' you".

As I went to grab the mag, I made sure that the first part the sentance was rather hard sounding and then I took my time on the word "or..." as I reached for the mag. I hen changed my tone to sound funny as I checked her out a bit.. I also made sure that I made eye contact with her and smiled.

she thought this was funny and laughed. then I just started a simple convo with her about the mags. Just when the conversation started to become comfortable, I made sure I didn't linger on and tolder her I had to go. I went to turn around and stoped myself from walking away. then, outwith out thinking about it I said , "hey, sorry for any intrusion, but how about I call you sometime. I might have time to do something fun this week?"

The girl replied with, "oh no.. it's no intrusion. :) and gave me her number" after that I got her name. by saying.. "gee... maybe I should of asked your name first?" she laughed and I left with her name and number.

only problem is I went around the long way as I left and didn't buy the mag. I Just hope she didn't see that. Iput it down somplace else. I didn't want to stand with her in the line up and have to talk to her. I just wanted to get the hell out
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sounds like a good one. Did you call her? How are things going?
 

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no i did not call her yet.. .thing is i'm not playing a game either. i too busy with work and other women that i really don't have time for her right now. i'll call her when i feel like it i guess. not sure when but it won't be within the next week.
 

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Originally posted by 00Kevin
no i did not call her yet.. .thing is i'm not playing a game either. i too busy with work and other women that i really don't have time for her right now. i'll call her when i feel like it i guess. not sure when but it won't be within the next week.
I'm proud of 'ya... ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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