"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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field report. book store pickup with number close!

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ok this came naturally to me today I didn't even plan this! :)

I was at the book store and saw nice girl looking the magazines.

She was in my way and I couldn't grab the mag that I wanted.

So I went up to her and said, "hey move it or... i'll body. 'check' you".

As I went to grab the mag, I made sure that the first part the sentance was rather hard sounding and then I took my time on the word "or..." as I reached for the mag. I hen changed my tone to sound funny as I checked her out a bit.. I also made sure that I made eye contact with her and smiled.

she thought this was funny and laughed. then I just started a simple convo with her about the mags. Just when the conversation started to become comfortable, I made sure I didn't linger on and tolder her I had to go. I went to turn around and stoped myself from walking away. then, outwith out thinking about it I said , "hey, sorry for any intrusion, but how about I call you sometime. I might have time to do something fun this week?"

The girl replied with, "oh no.. it's no intrusion. :) and gave me her number" after that I got her name. by saying.. "gee... maybe I should of asked your name first?" she laughed and I left with her name and number.

only problem is I went around the long way as I left and didn't buy the mag. I Just hope she didn't see that. Iput it down somplace else. I didn't want to stand with her in the line up and have to talk to her. I just wanted to get the hell out
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like a good one. Did you call her? How are things going?
 

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no i did not call her yet.. .thing is i'm not playing a game either. i too busy with work and other women that i really don't have time for her right now. i'll call her when i feel like it i guess. not sure when but it won't be within the next week.
 

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Originally posted by 00Kevin
no i did not call her yet.. .thing is i'm not playing a game either. i too busy with work and other women that i really don't have time for her right now. i'll call her when i feel like it i guess. not sure when but it won't be within the next week.
I'm proud of 'ya... ;)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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