"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ok so like I was saying before this girl is a long term friend but she has a bf which means little to me because she never brings him up when we talk. I dont wanna fall into the surrogate category giving her the attention and doing the bf things he should be doin but I do wanna get that ass. So I have been keeping busy and giving attention when I feel. She has her own spot and she says its cool if I come by and sh!t what Im wondering is how should I play making a move being that if I move too soon I give away the mystery?
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by MarkHammond
ok so like I was saying before this girl is a long term friend but she has a bf which means little to me because she never brings him up when we talk. I dont wanna fall into the surrogate category giving her the attention and doing the bf things he should be doin but I do wanna get that ass. So I have been keeping busy and giving attention when I feel. She has her own spot and she says its cool if I come by and sh!t what Im wondering is how should I play making a move being that if I move too soon I give away the mystery?
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lol, you havn'et made a mistake, ,at least a foreseeable one yet, that's always good.

However, you over overthinking...


You are taking the being a mystery concept a little to far.

You want to be a mystery as in.. not reveling too much of yourself like a babbling idiot..


However, YOU NEVER WANT YOUR INTENTIONS TO BE A MYSTERY.

EVER.

If you want to date her, and she has a BF, tell her that's cool, and I'll see you at times, but it doesn't change the fact that I still want to bend the fact that I want to bend you over a chair and **** your brains out...

If you stop by her house, MAKE her reject you! She isn't even rejecting you she is just saying she isn't interested at this time..

You have to lay the groundwork for a future reltionaship, and anything you do besides make a move, no matter how much of a "mysterY" you are, wil llead you to LJBF land.
 
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Okay, first off - are you dating her or at least hanging out with her on an one to one basis?

Second, Is her body language/eye contact giving you the go-ahead for any action?

Third, Is her boyfriend smaller than you?

Answer these questions first, and you'll get "the next update."
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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yea we hang out on a one on one basis in fact we planning to go to atlantic city in a few weeks (she has her own money to gamble with)


When we together she laughs alot and we have a good time. she tried to iniate a hug the other day when i picked her up from work she walked to the driver side i guess for a hug but i was too dumb to catch on lol


Yes he is smaller then me and she lives alone I mean he comes over but Im sure when Im there she will have some excuse why he cant that day.


so u think i should make her reject me huh?
 
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i dont know ill just chill with her at ur crib this weekend and depending on the vibe just react
 
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its friday and we supposed to chill later ill take her to a bar or sumthin and just go on the vibe
 
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She is hanging out with you when she has a bf? Wow, she could be trouble Dawg. If she was done with hime that would be one thing, but doing weekend activities with you .. hmmmm
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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this is tough!

I know kidnap her bf and she'll coming running to you for comfort, that way you'll tap that ass like no tomorrow.

But seriously this situation is tough. I'd say the best thing to do is let her see how great of a guy you are. How? well date other women, introduce her to them. Do double dates. It works great to fuel jealousy in women. Show her you're busy and have other important things to do than just bearound her.

you wont achieve anything by not dating anyone. If i were you i'd get off this oneitis.

Better yet give her the ultimatum. Tell her you cant be friends anymore its too hard for you. you might get lucky if she posesses true feelings.
 
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sounds like you know what ur doing. u have a goal and a gameplan to achieve it. too many (unnaturals) go to bed daydreaming of pretty mountains and unicorns hand in hand with some chick.

Girls do the exact same thing (gameplan). they run to their girlfriends who dont have a man. and get advice that seems to come from this site.

i would hit it as long as u dont know her boyfriend. be careful going to her place tho. he might pop up.

as far as making a move. sounds like ur in there if she is inviting u over, i wouldnt worry much about it. Just go over there knowing ur about to get u a lil.
 
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Mark, a girl always knows when a guy wants them - She's giving you buy signals and from what you tell me she isn't really giving you "friendszone" but then again we don't know. You can only know IF you make a move, So make that move to get your answer
 
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