"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Female Competitiveness

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Female Competitiveness

So, women like to compete with each other for a guy. At some point, one of the girls is going to be upset that the guy isn't as into her, and will be jealous of the attention the other girl is getting. She won't want any more contact between him and the other girl.

Apparently, this is the basis for new friendships between women.

My question is, if the newly befriended girl is interested in the guy already, how much of an influence will the jealous girl be on her? Can they be talked out of their interest, or is the competition so obvious that she may even be more attracted to the guy?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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poorly worded, but a very good question. This type of c0ckblocking has probably affected me recently, altho it's impossible to know for sure.

i'll await the thoughts of others on what strategies to employ.
 

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How necessery is it to say it's poorly worded man? You say it's a good question, thanks for that. Someone else will see it and think "coudn't have said it better myself".
 

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Drama is BS, but frankly I know some chicks are going to be talking **** and I want to know how to counter-act it, or if I even need to.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Drama is BS, but frankly I know some chicks are going to be talking **** and I want to know how to counter-act it, or if I even need to.
If a chick can influence another chick in losing interest in you, that chick wasn't that into you to begin with.

Don't try to counter-act or get into the whole female mindset and worry about what they are doing. Your time should be spend in increasing the interest level's of the chick you are interested in and not worry about the rest.
 

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You're right, I figure if a chick is so easily influenced, then she's not worth my time anyway.

I'll work on not letting this crap get to me. Serves no purpose.
 

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If a chick can influence another chick in losing interest in you, that chick wasn't that into you to begin with.
That's nice to say and there is some truth to it, but we all know that in reality, c0ckblocking can seriously f*ck up your game. A chick can be into you pretty well, but if there's someone opposed to your seduction, they often can get in the way pretty effectively.

I agree that there may be no true solution in this situation, tho.
 
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