Fellow Don Juans, Help A Brother Out!

[FoxHound20]

Ok, my situation is as follows:

2 years ago I meet this girl, I develop an interest for her, and become LJBFd after about 2 months. We actively flirt with eachother and i'm able 2 years later to break free of the friendship zone and turn her into a "Oneitis With Benefits" (not bad for an guy who was an AFC a year ago).. since having fooled around with her, I've found myself in the perdicament of obsessive infatuation...

We both have an agreement to not date, but to maintain the benefits between us. At first I was cool with this, then I realized that I wanted her all to myself. She then realized that she wanted me all to herself, so we made a pact to stay true to eachother, yet not date. Stupid idea!

So now i'm starting to develop some hard feelings for the girl (can't stop thinking about her, wondering who she is with, etc.) These feelings are knocking me off my normal routine of eating properly, working out, and taking an interest in other girls. I desperately need to seek closure on this because I feel that it will ultimately drive me into the ground.

Any advice how to break off the benefits, while being able to maintain a simple friendship with her? I can't handle finding out stories from my friends about her flirting with other guys, etc. She's a very flirtatious girl and this just plays with my emotions. It's a bad situation when you stop working out and constantly have a heavy feeling in the chest. I also don't agree with our agreement because I have a couple other girls that have taken an interest in me, but i've had to LJBF them. I'm sick and tired of these games, but at the same time I feel as though I love this girl.

Help me get out of this AFC mindstate fellow Don Juans!!

 

[SealTeamSix]

you already know the answer ... and most of DJs here will tell you the same .. that is .. MOVE ON buddy.

 

[FoxHound20]

I definately know that I need to move on and that it will hurt for real.. time to man up.

The one main problem I see is that it will be hard for us to hang out if we aren't constantly fooling around, etc. It will be weird to drop her off and not kiss her goodnight, or sleep naked next to her, etc. Get the drift?

 

[squirrels]

If you still enjoy the sex, maybe you should just terminate the "faithfulness" part of your agreement. You know, just tell her you want to "see other people."

If you think that you can't handle it emotionally, still sleeping with her without the permanence, then just move on completely. Or learn to handle it. One or the other.

"How do I break it off with a girl" is the same kind of question as "how do I approach a girl". You KNOW how to do it. You just need to grab your balls and do it.

 

[FoxHound20]

Good advice squirrels.. good advice.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Ask yourself. What do you want with this girl.

Ask yourself. Can you see you and her in a real relationship together?

If not.. then move.

And always.. FWB never become friendship. It becomes zero.