Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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DJ Bishop

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Hello. I'm Bishop, though I see that name's already been taken by a few on the board. Then again, with 10k members, I suppose that shouldn't come as a shocker to me. In any events, here is my situation as it stands now.

I've never had a problem with girls, with respects to talking to them. However, the problem is that the most gorgeous of these fine females view me as a friend - in fact, last night while playing drinking games at my wingman's apartment with one such lady I knew on a passing level, but (obviously) now at a more "friendly" one, she proceeded to remove all of her clothes and do a dance for the two of us - then after putting on her clothes, tell me "did you know that we were destined to be friends?" Not exactly my highest praise.

It's been this way for quite some time. I'll be the "best friend" of hottie upon hottie, and sometimes move into the endzone - however, with these friends, that is a rarity. I'm not sure if it's my openess regarding what I want that turns them away, or if it's my look - though they say I'm cute, I'm not sure if that's because they're friends or if it's actually truth.

I don't have a problem getting a girl into bed (at least, I have no problem with trying), so long as she's someone I haven't known for very long and don't have many friends in common with. My proudest moment was "moving in" to a house leased to 5 girls - then proceeding to make my way down the line, with all but 1 of them (she was unattractive). She then turned all 4 of them against me. It still didn't take away from the fact that I did it, though. ;)

I'm more physical than anything else, in that I'd much rather have a skinny girl - around 95 to 110 (110 is my cut-off) - in the sack than any other. Personality isn't that important, so long as she's got a good body and cute face. The problem... and I suppose I've said the word "problem" about twice two many times now, is that in the past few months, the total number of times I've had sex has been 3. In four months. Three different girls, mind you, but none of them repeats - with one, I believe it was my fault, in that I tried too hard to make it into a relationship, believing that was what I wanted (all of my female friends claim that I'm a male *****, a fact not entirely untruthful in and of itself...)

I don't know what to make of it. I gave up having sex last weekend, but it lasted all of 5 days before I gave in - and this was to a girl I wasn't particularly proud of. I'm sure you all have had the type, where you'd do her but wouldn't brag about it. Now, I've decided I don't want a LTR at all, but would instead rather rack up on my list of names... to be truthful, though, there is no list, as I've forgotten a good number of them. Though there are brief flashbacks to ones I can't recall every now and then.

I've checked out the forums, and the DJ Bible / Boot Camp. I've got no problem with maintaining eye contact with a hot girl, or of saying hello. In fact, I've been doing this (just not 2 seconds after they break contact) for some time now where I work, at A&F. (Yes, I know that there has been some saying that there are flamers at Abercrombie, but I can refute that - only 1/3rd of the guys at my store are... :eek: ) In any case, I'm the stock manager, so I'm not able to actually go talk to the customers unless I get bored or need to do something up front, so I'll just have to go walk around on my breaks or something.

Okay, enough of this. I believe I'll bookmark this page and update it each week that I complete a section of my "Boot Camp", making a notation of what all has happened. Hopefully this post wasn't too long for everyone, and because your eyes are probably sore I'll add in a few pictures of a few of the girls who I'm "friends" with - though in most cases, nothing more. If you've got any advice that you can give me in regards to anything that I've posted, feel more than free to comment. Also, great forums you guys have here. I look forward to being a part of it.




 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hey Bishop, welcome to the board...

Good luck on the bootcamp, don't feel bad if it doesn't fall through (I went through the BC 3 times before I finished beginning to end)

BTW, those pics... are those gf's? (If so why is your mom in one of the pics)
family? (Damn you got some hot sisters)
or coworkers? (I want that job!)
 

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Thanks, it's good to know that perfection isn't expected the first time around, though I'll give it a good shot until I do get to the end (that is, of course, if it has to be repeated).

As for the girls, they are (alas) girl friends, some of many.. I didn't have the inclination to post the others, though I will at some later time. As for the 'mommy', she's 24, thus the "old" look. She dances at Temptations and Rick's on Bourbon St in New Orleans. I suppose doing that makes one grow up - and look it - faster than that of others.
 
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Are you saying you don't have problem getting girls, but the hot ones want you as friends only. They see you as 'cute'. Are they older than you? Maybe u r too young?

Maybe they are looking for more of a masculine older look than just 'cute' - dunno. Go out clubbing with them as social proof!
 

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Are you saying those women you posted pics of are not hot? A couple of them are pretty damn good looking to me. I dont see how you can have a problem with women if you are bedding those women.

Lets see a picture of you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Are you saying you don't have problem getting girls, but the hot ones want you as friends only. They see you as 'cute'. Are they older than you? Maybe u r too young?

Maybe they are looking for more of a masculine older look than just 'cute' - dunno. Go out clubbing with them as social proof!
I've used the social proof before, without even knowing what it was. As for the age thing, I'm 20, 21 in 2 weeks. With the exception of Kerri - the redhead - they are all about my age.

Originally posted by Drex
Are you saying those women you posted pics of are not hot? A couple of them are pretty damn good looking to me. I dont see how you can have a problem with women if you are bedding those women.

Lets see a picture of you.
No, there's no argument that they are attractive - far moreso than me.. These are the ones that would rather me be only a friend.

As for pix, a few can be viewed here:

www.jbspencer.com/jeremy
 

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Ok so you havent had sex with any of these women that you posted pics of...my bad, I thought you did. You sure have a lot of hot friends though :eek:
 
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