There’s this girl — don’t really know her — at my Uni who stares intently at my face when I walk by her. For instance, one time I leaving the uni rec, and saw (out of my periphery) her jet towards the exit and when I walked past she just stared. Also, on three different occasions she was with another guy, but kept being obnoxious and laughing loudly. She also sometimes comes near where I’m stationed in the gym and hovers there but doesn’t say anything. What’s her deal?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Fellas (and gals), I need help interpreting...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
AttackFormation
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Have you thought about.................. asking her?
2Rocky
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"Hi, I'm Gomes. I've seen you around campus a few times. What's your name? "
"Well Lulubelle, I'm headed to class right now. I'd love to continue this conversation Why don't i meet up with you this afternoon after class at the Student Union. "
"Great I'll text you when I get out of class. Here put your number in my phone."
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I'd tease the sh1t out of her after all that. Something like this:
YOU: Hey I saw you checking me out all the time.
HB: No, no I didn't.
YOU: Be serious, you were checking my ass/ears(whatever stupid think you can think of). And looking right into my eyes.
HB: Oh come one, I didn't.
YOU: Haha, you're funny, you're doing it again!
HB: Oh you...You're so baaad!
YOU: Hmm let's go out sometimes, gimme your number. I promise I'll let you stare at me some more.
Im writing this assuming you're attracted to this girl, of course.
YOU: Hey I saw you checking me out all the time.
HB: No, no I didn't.
YOU: Be serious, you were checking my ass/ears(whatever stupid think you can think of). And looking right into my eyes.
HB: Oh come one, I didn't.
YOU: Haha, you're funny, you're doing it again!
HB: Oh you...You're so baaad!
YOU: Hmm let's go out sometimes, gimme your number. I promise I'll let you stare at me some more.
Im writing this assuming you're attracted to this girl, of course.
Bible_Belt
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She's done more guys than she can remember and is obsessed with figuring out whether or not you were one of them.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.