"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Feelings of Emptiness

Caldus

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Hey guys,

For some reason I just feel empty lately. Like there is no purpose to life and that it's hopeless to ever make enough meaning of life in order to be satisfied. I'm not talking about a lack of a girlfriend or sex or social life or anything like that. I mean I lack all of these but it doesn't bother me that much anymore. I just want to ask if anyone has ever felt this way before and what do they end up doing? I don't want to just get drunk to ignore the feeling. To me that wouldn't be right. I guess it's a matter of finding meaning for your life hm?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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it's up to you to find out your purpose in life.... If you're lucky, it will be 'special' like Steve Martin's in the movie "The Jerk."
 

Caldus

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
it's up to you to find out your purpose in life.... If you're lucky, it will be 'special' like Steve Martin's in the movie "The Jerk."
Yup, I knew I was right. Not sure why I made the topic.
 

SELF-MASTERY

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If your name were camus instead of caldus I would better understand your emptiness....

But yeah Ive been feeling the same lately as if happiness is something that I can not achieve for awhile, atleast, not until I make certain changes in my life. If I could ever be content; I would if content men ever make anything out of their lives???
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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