"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Feeling insecure and can’t take this new relationship serious.

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I have to admit I am bothered by her past history, some cheating and drugs involved. I am wondering is this worth pursuing or should I just break it off with her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you have to take people for who they are man. I learned too much about my girlfriends past and it ended up making me resent her and making her feel like ****. If you dont like it, end it, otherwise let it go and go with the flo
 
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T-Mack said:
However, tomorrow she is leaving to go on a school camping trip with a bunch of people for a couple of weeks. Before we started hooking up she said she was definitely going to hook up with someone on this trip. Recently, now she says she will not hook up with anyone and says there is no one worth hooking up with on the trip, and that she likes me.
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So what... if there WAS someone worth hooking up with on that trip, she would?

She also says I guess you don’t trust me. I say no and tell her it is because you cheated on your last boyfriend. I tell her if you can make it back without hooking up on this trip, I will be able to trust you.
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If you don't trust her, why are you with her? And what, you're going to believe her if she says she didn't hook up on that trip? You'd only be going on her WORD, and that means nothing. Like, what'll give you 100% confidence that she's telling the truth? You don't trust her now, what's going to change?

We have a lot of things in common and get along really great. The difference is the weed and lifestyle. I smoke occasionally and she smokes all the time. She also lives an overall unhealthy lifestyle, doesn’t eat well or workout that often.
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By now, you already have enough to go on.
I don't see why you are still with her... for the sex?
Too many red flags, too many unattractive traits.

I have to admit I am bothered by her past history, some cheating and drugs involved. I am wondering is this worth pursuing or should I just break it off with her?
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You already know what to do.
You just want us to reaffirm your suspicions and what's already on your mind.
 
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GettinLuckyAintLuck

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If history has taught us anything, it's that history repeats itself. This girl will cheat on you, and more than likely will take drugs again.... save yourself the heartache and break her heart asap.
 
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GettinLuckyAintLuck said:
If history has taught us anything, it's that history repeats itself. This girl will cheat on you, and more than likely will take drugs again.... save yourself the heartache and break her heart asap.
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^^^^^^Listen to him
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How about you be a man and deal with it.

If you want to be a pus*y and decide that your too insecure to hold this down and that she'll probably cheat on you anyway since she's such a big slut, you might aswell dump her and go for a less attractive girl.

Or you can bite your tongue and keep your mouth shut like a man. Sometimes the only way to deal with it is by not showing what a weak pus*y you are within. You might be scared and insecure on the inside, but somebody has to be a man, and it has to be you.

Smile and tell her to have fun. Laugh and make jokes if she mentions the hooking up issue. Tell her to stay a few days extra so you can have some peace. Unless you want to go for the easy option and decide its not worth it.

However, drugs could be the exception, personally i would have to not get involved with that and risk my career.
 
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