First day of school was not what I expected. I tried to follow the Tim Flawless Natural Method and i tried to pump myself up but I still had approach anxiety. My goal was to talk to some really hot girls(the popular ones) which is not what i would usually do. So I was at lunch with friends of mine and I tried to approach with normal hey watsup im jamal and they responded well but then I didnt know what eles to say...so i ended it. They made weird faces while smiling and I felt like ****. I was at a lunch table with hot girls and since i screwed up I didnt talk for the rest of the period and I was considered low value. I reallly want to bounce back and do better because I want to hangout with them cause they are hot...Im having a tough time continuing the conversation and I know peoples advice is "say wateva" but i realize its harder said than done. Right now I just need help and some motivation for tomorrow cause i dont know what I am going to do.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Feel like ****
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Think of each individual approach as its own objective. You approach, you talk, you get out... done. Don't let a bad approach hurt your confidence and don't let a good one get you too ****y. There is quite possibly a million reasons why the girls were laughing and smiling. And unless you know how a girl thinks, we will always just have to guess. So stop caring about the outcome.
Think about this. You had the balls to go talk the that hot chick. Hold on to that.
Think about this. You had the balls to go talk the that hot chick. Hold on to that.
Don't worry about the value. You acted like lower value because you think yourself as being lower value and you're still thinking like that since you are so worried what all the other think of you. Ask yourself why?
Read the 'gift of gab' and 'art of gibberish' links in my signature for more about talking to people.
Read the 'gift of gab' and 'art of gibberish' links in my signature for more about talking to people.
The confidence to talk to chicks... Most people are too scared. Even if you think you failed, that's high value, no matter what you think. Now you have thicker skin too... because you went up one level. If you can talk to a bunch of hot chicks, you're not getting easily nervous in, lets say, one to one conversation. So no matter what you think, you won! 
And yes... Say whatever. It's not what you say, it's how you say. "My name is bond... James bond". That may look like a corny sentence, but the way bond says it, sure as hell it's cool! If you said it on a different tone however, people would look at you and be like "Uhh, okay!". So general "rule"... pay attention at the tone, not at anything else! It saves you trobule to look for the right thing too.
Good luck for tommorow!
And yes... Say whatever. It's not what you say, it's how you say. "My name is bond... James bond". That may look like a corny sentence, but the way bond says it, sure as hell it's cool! If you said it on a different tone however, people would look at you and be like "Uhh, okay!". So general "rule"... pay attention at the tone, not at anything else! It saves you trobule to look for the right thing too.
Good luck for tommorow!
LMAO, i can see the experience points flowing into him right now, it's increased his armor, upgraded his charisma, and leveled up his skill in "Gibberish"Groovy said:Now you have thicker skin too... because you went up one level... So no matter what you think, you won!
And yes... Say whatever. It's not what you say, it's how you say. "My name is bond... James bond".
Seriously though, i agree with you 100%, i've said some completely nonsensical things that if you were paying attention you'd want to put a straight jacket on me.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.