"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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feel like a clown when i talk to girls i like

LittleBigOne

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When i see girl i like (during nightlife) i have te dare to approach her. That's great but...
during the interactions i use C+F but feel myself more like a clown. I make fun of the girl and tease her but for some reason it doesn't work. The convo's stay short. Strange enough, sometimes, when i meet a girl on occasion without a real approach, it look i make better impression, without C+F. I am more calm inside then, no pressure.

Other people who have this? And what to do with it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Phoenix

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It's because your "using" C&F. Your getting into an unnatural state and you will reflect it non-verbally, women smell incongruence.
 

hover411

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drop the routines.

go buy "blueprint decoded" by RSD/Tyler Durden.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mike32ct

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Not every guy is congruent with ****y and funny. I gave it up and did much better. I still like to be playful sometimes, but I'm not a ballbuster. Otherwise I ran into problems like offending women or not being funny or simply being a dancing monkey.

Develop natural game being you. ****y and funny is not one size fits all.
 
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