You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Effort thanks for the kind words man. Its actually not that bad if you want it bad. The three hardest parts to my opinion are :EFFORT said:wow 18 years old and being able to follow a diet like that is impressive keep up the good work
frenchbeauty said:Effort thanks for the kind words man. Its actually not that bad if you want it bad. The three hardest parts to my opinion are :
1. getting started
2. eating tuna and mayo before bed time
3. seeing guys whose diet suck and who dont work legs gaining crazy amounts of weight with roids. Trust me theres more than a few at my gym.![]()
Btw effort hows your training going ?
Dmatter trying to keep up to me is gonna get hard budGames on !
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
yeah if you can get a hamburger or some steak in that would help after your workout. Chicken is pretty light in the calories which is why it doesn't make the best postworkout meal.frenchbeauty said:Todays workout:
Squats 1*5 @ 215lbs 1*5 @ 225lbs yeaaa buddy ! Two plates today. I had to take a break after my third rep though for a few seconds.
Leg Press 2*15 @ 300lbs. Its an horizontal leg press machine. I like the vertical one better but theres none at my gym..
Pullthroughs 2*10 @ 105lbs.
Diet 8am - shake ( 4 eggs 50 cl milk 2 scoops whey )
11am - chicken rice veggies
2am - same shake
5pm - post workout shake
6pm - post wo meal chicken rice veggies
9pm - shake + olive oil
11pm - tuna + olive oil
Im getting kinda worried about not having enough red meat to eat. Is it alright though.
Cheers,
FB
I agree, you're on the right track and much more consistent than most guys your age. Keep it up!I-tallionStallion said:Everything is looking good, keep it up frenchy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.