"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Fate

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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penkitten

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dont ever be afraid of fate.

when fate blows past you, follow it with open arms and see where it takes you.
never be afraid to dance with fate, sometimes it lets you lead, sometimes it makes you follow.

everything in this life is 50 50.
the only thing for sure is that its gods will not ours on what happens and the outcome is what it is suppose to be.


fate will knock upon your doorstep some day , its ok to let it in:cheer:
 

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How do some of you non-religious people feel about fate? That's what I'd like to know. I'm not exactly religious, I believe in SOMETHING, but I don't know what. But I do believe in fate in some situations....
 

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Originally posted by level006
How do some of you non-religious people feel about fate? That's what I'd like to know. I'm not exactly religious, I believe in SOMETHING, but I don't know what. But I do believe in fate in some situations....
i'm non religious, but I believe in fate... sorta. I think that everything that will happen has already happened. weird, huh? yeah well, i'm too tired from my workout to explain why i think that, so i'll leave it up to your imagination and explain later ;) . That's kinda like fate, right?
 

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I believe in fate, but maybe not in the way you're thinking.

We didn't choose to be who we are, we didn't choose this life, and we didn't choose our family.

Everything we do is based on past experience, right? But since we didn't have any control over who we are, we couldn't choose what we experience, we couldn't choose to be raised the way we are. We only do what we base on past experience. If we were born in someone else's shoes, with their family and their experiences, we would end up the same as them.

If that were true, it means that predestination is true in some sense, because we don't really control our actions.

I don't know if that explanation makes sense, but I discussed/argued with someone for a long time about this and he won outright.

As for the whole thing about coincidences, or maybe luck, well, I don't believe in coincidences. There are a lot of books on on the topic. There's a lot of evidence that points toward something called the Law of Attraction, and it states that whatever you concentrate on, you will get.

Not sure if this is what you meant, but I hope it helps.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Penkitten's reply made me think of Garth Brooks... Bama boy here, sorry.

"Life's a dance, you learn as you go, sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow."

I'm not particularly religious, however I was raised by christian parents, luckily they let me think on my own. I do believe that fate exists, but I think that you also have a say in the matter. Free will, all that jazz. I do think that things happen for a reason and that in the end, everything works out. Not necessarily for the better, but I think that if you have the right mindset, things usually wind up working out for you.
 

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Originally posted by TACH
Penkitten's reply made me think of Garth Brooks... Bama boy here, sorry.

"Life's a dance, you learn as you go, sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow."
John Micheal Montgomery is the artist.
 

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Oh damn, you're right. I was thinking of Brooks' 'the Dance'
 
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