"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Fastest way to get a girl to chase you?

ukboy1

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2014
Messages
26
Reaction score
0
Any suggestions just as a general question, been with her 6 months and I think ive made the mistake of chasing her yoo much recently, how can I spin this round?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

ukboy1

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2014
Messages
26
Reaction score
0
Is going ghost on a girlfriend of 6 months a great idea? Surely it'll just convey a lack of interest to her?
 

Ray S

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 31, 2014
Messages
69
Reaction score
2
ukboy1 said:
Is going ghost on a girlfriend of 6 months a great idea? Surely it'll just convey a lack of interest to her?
Should get you on the right track to getting in control of the situation again
 

RagingBalls

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 20, 2014
Messages
228
Reaction score
11
Location
Spain (currently S.E.Asia)
ukboy1 said:
Any suggestions just as a general question, been with her 6 months and I think ive made the mistake of chasing her too much recently, how can I spin this round?

For a girl to chase you , you must be of high value and importance in her life. It could also be that you had induced a roller-coaster like emotions and the stimulation she feels from it made her crave for more, thus, becomes addicted to it that she sees you as her version of crack coke.
 

SmooveMooves

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2013
Messages
1,441
Reaction score
694
Location
NY
Brah you don't disappear on a relationship of 6 months where you've been seeing each other regualarly. That's like asking for the relationship to end.

That's really bad advice.

To attempt to gain power back you go aloof, make her invest more. Distance yourself and reestablish a dominant frame. if she doesn't try desperately to close the gap then most likely her Interest lvl is below a salvageable point and energy would be better spent on a new relationship.

Really hard to change an already set image and behavior, gotta revamp your game a lil bit. Read up on the Bible a lil bit preferably focusing on inner game, and integrate those ideas into your lifestyle.

Goodluck
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

RagingBalls

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 20, 2014
Messages
228
Reaction score
11
Location
Spain (currently S.E.Asia)
Okay, for the fastest way to get a girl to chase you is to:

Borrow a huge amount of cash from her and then go ghost :rolleyes:
 

ukboy1

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2014
Messages
26
Reaction score
0
Yeah mate, as in, its a girl i've been with and seen regularly for 6 months, not a chick im dating
 

GotED?

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2012
Messages
819
Reaction score
99
Location
The Viagra Pill you wish you had...- United Kingdo
You really can't get a woman to 'chase you' until you are maybe past the 3rd or 4th date and she's SERIOUSLY into you.

A woman will rarely initiate anything UNLESS she's EMOTIONALLY INVESTED IN YOU (this can be an indirect result of physical intimacy unspoken).

You can not game a woman just by good looks or charm and expect her to chase you. These are what fairy tales are made of.

Women need to CONNECT with you - very deeply actually for them to risk rejection and chase a man. I suppose there are a few rare exceptions in life, such as the emotionally damaged women or HOs who will chase you based upon seeing other women all over you by some lucky coincidence. But those are probably short lived fantasy - faster they come, faster they go.

Exodus
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

dutchmaster

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 10, 2011
Messages
417
Reaction score
61
Location
Tampa
Get your sh1t together and they will flock after you. I'm more concerned with learning marketing and making big bucks within the first two years of graduating college. My current perspective is, I'm busy with my life getting it together and building towards a good future, is this girl worthy of my time? Should I invest my most valuable commodity into her? What will it bring me, is it worth it?

I disagree with needing spinning plates to get women to chase. I want a girlfriend who would help me better as a person. Who can bring out the best in me. As long as you can maintain your frame (whatever it is, the alpha,beta crap is BS. Find your own frame and stick to it) then they'll keep chasing. The point is to be indifferent. Plates simply help with that. I'd be much happier in a healthy relationship building towards a strong successful future than wasting my time running after chicks to look cool to a bunch of people who don't give a sh1t about me.

The only problem is I'm yet to find her, so in the mean time I am spinning plates just to have my sexual desires fulfilled.

Regardless, I'm happy with my life.
 

JoeMarron

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 25, 2012
Messages
1,301
Reaction score
64
Age
35
If you've been chasing her for 6 months then it may be hard to change that around. Become more awesome and stop chasing her. Text her less than she does you, show less affection, you get the idea.
 

dutchmaster

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 10, 2011
Messages
417
Reaction score
61
Location
Tampa
Espi said:
You're right dutchmaster--spinning plates is just a vehicle. A method. A technique. Or, for myself, a way of life.

OPTIONS is key here. You seem to be very content with chasing your goals and desires and that's great. The underlying factor is, don't get obsessed with a chick and make her the The Reason For Living. That, to me, is how guys get sucked into emptiness and depression.

Have something to aspire to.
That's very true and well said, because ironically enough I was obsessed over my ex-girlfriend and it did exactly what you just said. I was depressed and empty and relying on her to keep me sane basically. But after our break-up I was able to use the depression to my advantage and understand that I need to get my life together, hence where I'm at now. In a way she influenced me. Some people (like myself) need to hit rock bottom before it clicks in their head that they need to make serious changes.
 
Top