"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mostly good stuff. I only got a couple complaints. It says, you're not a gangster or it would say, you're not a rockstar. How the hell do they know what kinda personality we are? I only go with baggy jeans and I would never wear my shirts seam on my shoulder because that would show my scrawny arms. Finally, scarves and man bags? F.uck that s.hit!
 

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I guess bro, with that site you got to take advice and tailor it to your style, you don't have to follow word for word.
 

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true. but they need to put that up there. Cause maybe I know better, but some "nerd" might not realize that if he's skinny, he shouldn't be wearing muscles shirts.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Damn Im guilty of the socks and sandals combo. Even my friends told me that is lame.
 

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Create Reality said:
Damn Im guilty of the socks and sandals combo. Even my friends told me that is lame.
Haha bro, come on, that's like beginner's fashion, you learn that right out of the womb.
 

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Hmm, they say not to wear white jacket or white outerwear, but white looks good on me. That is what I think, but I might be wrong. What do you guy think about white outerwear?
 

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I don't know why they're against facial hair. :( Sideburns look good on almost any man. And some can pull off a goatie. :) Like me!
 

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Guoy Darko said:
I don't know why they're against facial hair. :( Sideburns look good on almost any man. And some can pull off a goatie. :) Like me!


I disagree with a lot of the stuff on that site; I agree with a lot of it too though. I think they are just trying to give nerds a straight forward idea of what to wear and what not to wear
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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That site is as hit-or-miss as any human being randomly spouting sartorial advice. As a guide, it's horrible. Never tuck in your shirt? Wear black dress pants? Heck, they post "wear loafers" and toss up a picture of the ugliest brown lace-ups (and lace-ups are not loafers). Seriously, awful, awful, AWFUL SITE.

www.askandyaboutclothes.com

^ All you need to know ^
 

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kyphan said:
That site is as hit-or-miss as any human being randomly spouting sartorial advice. As a guide, it's horrible. Never tuck in your shirt? Wear black dress pants? Heck, they post "wear loafers" and toss up a picture of the ugliest brown lace-ups (and lace-ups are not loafers). Seriously, awful, awful, AWFUL SITE.

www.askandyaboutclothes.com

^ All you need to know ^

You actually spent money to learn how to dress man?! LMAO!
 
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Hold the phone!!!! Hold the phone!!!! "Dress to impress girls"??? The hell with that!!!!! Dress for your self!!!!! Do you like comfort? Then be comfortable!!!! Alll the ghetto boys are dressing with pants down to their ankles!!!! Do girls want that???? Hors are getting fvcked by them!!!!!!! Never dress for a hor -- dress for you!!!!!!!
 

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ValleyDJing said:
You actually spent money to learn how to dress man?! LMAO!
There are a number of free articles on that site that explain the basics to dressing far better than Fashion4Nerds. That CD he advertises is literally an encyclopedia on clothes (construction, terms, history, etc), not a "how to dress" book.

The message board is possibly the largest library of information and opinions on clothing that exists. Posters range from people such as myself who have an interest in clothing that will last longer, to a decent number of high-end custom tailors, tie-makers, and people who work for some of the larger clothing corporations.

The best part? Nobody forces you to dress a particular way. All the site does is provide information for you read as you please.
 

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From the site:

The suggestions on this site won't give you your own personal 'style'. That's something you'll have to develop entirely on your own.
Yeah... it says that and then tells me to cut my hair and shave of my goatee... which has been an integral part of my personal style for years and will continue to be. You want me to sell my guitars too? Fvck off, nerd!
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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