"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Fashion

Maeisgood

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I wish there was a fashion forum here. I think clothes are boring so I know little about them, but I've noticed women pay me a lot more attention when I'm dressed well.

For casual settings (bars, etc.) does wearing a souvenir T-shirt from a faraway place (another continent or Caribbean Island) look cheesy or does it make you look like an interesting person? A shirt from far away isn’t cheap either when you consider the cost of getting there and back!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Vice

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The problem is that fashion is a moving target.

You can't go wrong with starting with "classic" looks and then building in trendy pieces from there.
 

FairShake

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I've learned fit and color matter more on me than expense and "fanciness" of my clothes.

http://www.realmenrealstyle.com/color-wheel-menswear/
http://www.askmen.com/fashion/fashiontip_200/222_fashion_advice.html

The color wheel comes from the mind of Issac Newton so, you know, science and stuff. As a pale-skinned guy I dropped the loud and light colors that I sometimes used to wear and went with alot of Navy, dark green, khaki, and maroon. I usually base the outfit around one of those colors and add something lighter for contrast but smaller than the base color.

As for fit one truism seemed to work for me. Whatever size you currently wear, go one less. Assuming you are American, a decade and a half of Hip Hop dominance has left us utterly clueless in sartorial sense. While the music may be fading some the clothes haven't yet. Don't be afraid of slim jeans. The kind of guys in baggy jeans and jerseys who laugh at slimmer jeans are only touching their bro that night with a hi-five.

If you do want to spruce it up a little here you go

http://www.primermagazine.com/tag/the-getup

That said, for guys, the classics work best. Hipster and bro-hop won't last because they just aren't that good. Stick with what has gotten men laid for generations.

As for wearing "statement shirts" with labels on them most fashion guys recommend not to. I say go ahead as long as the labels are congruent with who you are. Don't wear surfing shirts if you don't surf or motorcycle shirts if you aren't a biker like douches do. But if it is an element of your personality it can help start conversations wherever you go.
 

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Custom Stitchers can deliver you the shirts that match to your personality.
 

Huffman

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There was a huge thread about fashion from, I think, PrettyBoyAJ or something. Use google search with the "site:sosuave.net" switch.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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