"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Fascinating contradiction: shy but flashy

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I am married in my 40s and enjoy a small harem on the side. She is married in her 30s and she dresses unambiguously sexually in a way that must get her a lot of attention. At the same time, she is the pinnacle of shyness. Her eye contact to my direction runs the gamit of short looks, very long looks to avoidance. In all cases, she looks down when she sees me. I asked her out directly where I got a sharp angry rebuke, followed however by more signs of marked shyness rather than indifference.

What do you make of her? My plan is to add her to my life as a full scale girlfriend, like other married women in my harem.

Especially I never before came across a combination of extreme shyness with attention getting (though classy) attire.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why are you trying to screw up someone's marriage? You want multiple wpmen? Get a divorce and date single women.
 

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Shrugging my shoulders. I have adventures with married women with no moral qualms. My longest standing is a few years and continues to add fun and meaning to life.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ignored, too. Shaking head.

For the non moralistic adults here, I look for insights into a personality that is at once shy and flashy.
We may game women but most on here have some morals. Don't f uck up another mans marriage is one. I'm done..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Good. The sooner the morality police has finished with their indignation, adults can chime in on the actual topic.
 

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I don't see how you can make someone a "full time girlfriend" when you are spinning other plates AND are married. Sounds like definitively part time to me.
 

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Dear Meinelaster,
I don't comment on morality,who am I to judge?...but on the seeming contradiction of a woman who averts her gaze but deliberately wears seductive gear,she will be easy meat...Probably not the sex that she needs but the assurance that she is lovely and desirable...So just a comment on how alluring her dress is and her clothes sense and you will open her up...easy on the ****y and funny though!
 

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I don't see how you can make someone a "full time girlfriend" when you are spinning other plates AND are married. Sounds like definitively part time to me.
You misread. I said "full scale". Meaning on par with my wife on bringing meaning to my life with a soul level connection and intimacy. That limits me to three or four women that are chosen carefully.
 

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Probably not the sex that she needs but the assurance that she is lovely and desirable
Thats one possibility I like. She isn't easy and that's good as I WANT her to ponder the emotional whirlwind of entering an affair. She is warm hearted and that's a must for me. A warm hearted woman is unlikely to turn on you.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Depends on the morality of the area. In my home town, a guy was sniffing around a married woman and was found dead on the beach. Ruled a suicide by the local Sheriff. About 100 miles away, ranchers caught some cattle rustlers. Drug one to death and hung the other one. Sheriff ruled murder/ suicide. Play your own games, but don't come here complaining when your life blows up
 
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