You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
what he said!katatonia said:You might want to rephrase the question because I have no idea what you're asking.
A lot more then handsome bro. And yea I got some ****ed up family members. i lived with my two cousins for 8 years from when I was 9, they were always bringing girls over, and I build up a friendship with my cousins wife without realizing it. Now shes 35, just had a kid, horny.... I don't even know what to do.Mantis Toboggan said:Sounds like a question you should be asking a therapist. You either have a f***ed up family or you're taking their compliments too seriously. I'm sure we all have aunts and cousins who call us "handsome."
By the way, your original post in this thread was like....barely English.
Not exactly sure what this means. I'm guessing there was an argument or discussion and she sided with you. She totally wants to bone you.Crissco said:Long story short. I get **** tests and flirtatiousness from my aunt(not blood related). My cousins wife who ive known since I was 9(she backed me up over her husband 2 nights go)
Hm... chances are you're reading too much into it. I admit, I have felt a certain attention from the wives/girlfriends of cousins and friends, but I've never assumed it meant much. Particularly because I wouldn't pursue it even if the interest was real. Bros before hos, bruthaman. And if you're thinking your AUNT is attracted to you sexually, uh, you might wanna re-visit your definition of sexual attraction.Crissco said:and even my blood related aunt. and im not even doing anything to provoke it. WTF. Im 22, good looking, confident, outgoing, witty. Its something that just comes natural to me. I feel bad for them. I have no idea what to do so they wont be attracted to me lol.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I was about to disagree but I figured out the sarcasm.Not exactly sure what this means. I'm guessing there was an argument or discussion and she sided with you. She totally wants to bone you.