I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
what he said!katatonia said:You might want to rephrase the question because I have no idea what you're asking.
A lot more then handsome bro. And yea I got some ****ed up family members. i lived with my two cousins for 8 years from when I was 9, they were always bringing girls over, and I build up a friendship with my cousins wife without realizing it. Now shes 35, just had a kid, horny.... I don't even know what to do.Mantis Toboggan said:Sounds like a question you should be asking a therapist. You either have a f***ed up family or you're taking their compliments too seriously. I'm sure we all have aunts and cousins who call us "handsome."
By the way, your original post in this thread was like....barely English.
Not exactly sure what this means. I'm guessing there was an argument or discussion and she sided with you. She totally wants to bone you.Crissco said:Long story short. I get **** tests and flirtatiousness from my aunt(not blood related). My cousins wife who ive known since I was 9(she backed me up over her husband 2 nights go)
Hm... chances are you're reading too much into it. I admit, I have felt a certain attention from the wives/girlfriends of cousins and friends, but I've never assumed it meant much. Particularly because I wouldn't pursue it even if the interest was real. Bros before hos, bruthaman. And if you're thinking your AUNT is attracted to you sexually, uh, you might wanna re-visit your definition of sexual attraction.Crissco said:and even my blood related aunt. and im not even doing anything to provoke it. WTF. Im 22, good looking, confident, outgoing, witty. Its something that just comes natural to me. I feel bad for them. I have no idea what to do so they wont be attracted to me lol.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I was about to disagree but I figured out the sarcasm.Not exactly sure what this means. I'm guessing there was an argument or discussion and she sided with you. She totally wants to bone you.