"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Crissco

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How do you guys react to family members without coming off to strong?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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katatonia

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You might want to rephrase the question because I have no idea what you're asking.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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katatonia said:
You might want to rephrase the question because I have no idea what you're asking.
what he said!
 

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Long story short. I get **** tests and flirtatiousness from my aunt(not blood related). My cousins wife who ive known since I was 9(she backed me up over her husband 2 nights go) and even my blood related aunt. and im not even doing anything to provoke it. WTF. Im 22, good looking, confident, outgoing, witty. Its something that just comes natural to me. I feel bad for them. I have no idea what to do so they wont be attracted to me lol. I want my own girl, not theirs. Every time I engage in conversation its a normal conversation for me, and when I try to avoid them the **** tests/flirting gets even stronger. Im not flirting, acting like im right. Im listening and at the same time putting my point it. Treating them like equals. It seems everything I do I can do no wrong around these women. Maybe I should try calling them out, telling them to have self respect for yourself, your married.... How would you guys handle this situation?
 

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Sounds like a question you should be asking a therapist. You either have a f***ed up family or you're taking their compliments too seriously. I'm sure we all have aunts and cousins who call us "handsome."

By the way, your original post in this thread was like....barely English.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
Sounds like a question you should be asking a therapist. You either have a f***ed up family or you're taking their compliments too seriously. I'm sure we all have aunts and cousins who call us "handsome."

By the way, your original post in this thread was like....barely English.
A lot more then handsome bro. And yea I got some ****ed up family members. i lived with my two cousins for 8 years from when I was 9, they were always bringing girls over, and I build up a friendship with my cousins wife without realizing it. Now shes 35, just had a kid, horny.... I don't even know what to do.
 

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Crissco said:
Long story short. I get **** tests and flirtatiousness from my aunt(not blood related). My cousins wife who ive known since I was 9(she backed me up over her husband 2 nights go)
Not exactly sure what this means. I'm guessing there was an argument or discussion and she sided with you. She totally wants to bone you.


Crissco said:
and even my blood related aunt. and im not even doing anything to provoke it. WTF. Im 22, good looking, confident, outgoing, witty. Its something that just comes natural to me. I feel bad for them. I have no idea what to do so they wont be attracted to me lol.
Hm... chances are you're reading too much into it. I admit, I have felt a certain attention from the wives/girlfriends of cousins and friends, but I've never assumed it meant much. Particularly because I wouldn't pursue it even if the interest was real. Bros before hos, bruthaman. And if you're thinking your AUNT is attracted to you sexually, uh, you might wanna re-visit your definition of sexual attraction.

edit: 69th post oh f*ck yeah!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Not exactly sure what this means. I'm guessing there was an argument or discussion and she sided with you. She totally wants to bone you.
I was about to disagree but I figured out the sarcasm.
 
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