I have yet to date a girl as a non-afc. I remember the feelings I had when I "fell" for a girl, and it felt great, but those feelings in themselves ruined the relationship. Does a Don Juan get to feel that way and he just controls himself better? Because it just seems like being a Don Juan involves a loss of emotion and that is not a good thing. Anyone have an answer?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"falling" for a girl
- Thread starter naes
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
Who says a loss of emotion is a bad thing?
a don juan doesn't get too emotional with a girl because he knows there are a billions others out there. Getting too emotional for a girl only leads to trouble and pain.
a don juan doesn't get too emotional with a girl because he knows there are a billions others out there. Getting too emotional for a girl only leads to trouble and pain.
Scoiland
Senior Don Juan
i don't agree with that what so ever
a don juan is more about being someone who can approach people and get to be with different types of girls to really understand what you want in life
that is the point of dating and going with different types of girls., to see what you want
if you are falling for a girl great, you found what you are looking for supposibily and becoming a don juan has helped you accomplish that
a don juan is more about being someone who can approach people and get to be with different types of girls to really understand what you want in life
that is the point of dating and going with different types of girls., to see what you want
if you are falling for a girl great, you found what you are looking for supposibily and becoming a don juan has helped you accomplish that
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
Ignore this Don Juan label for a minute and focus on what it really means.
To be human is to have and experience emotion.
How you act on those emotions is another thing.
Self control and having a rational perspective is the key.
Self esteem and self worth also help to keep yourself in check.
In terms of seduction, if women can percieve that you have a strong sense of self esteem, inner strength and value then she will love you more. We are the protectors and hunters, that is the genetic and psychological expectation. And like physical strength, strength of mind and character is important for the same purpose.
This dictomy is what attracts women to men.
Don't mistake wussy behaviour with passion though. Telling her I love each day on the phone is wu$$y. Spontaneously looking deep in her eyes and then taking her into a match of tonsil wrestling is passion.
Kaine
To be human is to have and experience emotion.
How you act on those emotions is another thing.
Self control and having a rational perspective is the key.
Self esteem and self worth also help to keep yourself in check.
In terms of seduction, if women can percieve that you have a strong sense of self esteem, inner strength and value then she will love you more. We are the protectors and hunters, that is the genetic and psychological expectation. And like physical strength, strength of mind and character is important for the same purpose.
This dictomy is what attracts women to men.
Don't mistake wussy behaviour with passion though. Telling her I love each day on the phone is wu$$y. Spontaneously looking deep in her eyes and then taking her into a match of tonsil wrestling is passion.
Kaine
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
I love the feeling of falling for someone. The thing is, you gotta know what to do with that feeling.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
exactly...dont listen to anyone who tells you FALLING is a bad thing.
being a DJ has nothing to do with that..you cant help THE REAL EMOTIONS YOU FEEL WHEN THIS HAPPENS.
if you fall for a great girl..dont lose ur dj traits..dont turn afc to appease her or try to hard..just relax and have fun with it.
I am talking to someone..that I have feelings for...and its differnt then the other girls ive meet recently...but as DJ ive gotten to meet a variety..and for somereason im more emotionally attached to this one!
so good luck
being a DJ has nothing to do with that..you cant help THE REAL EMOTIONS YOU FEEL WHEN THIS HAPPENS.
if you fall for a great girl..dont lose ur dj traits..dont turn afc to appease her or try to hard..just relax and have fun with it.
I am talking to someone..that I have feelings for...and its differnt then the other girls ive meet recently...but as DJ ive gotten to meet a variety..and for somereason im more emotionally attached to this one!
so good luck
Passion is a good thing. Falling for a girl is a good thing.
I wouldn't tell her the depth of your feelings too soon or too often.
Don't let yourself get carried away with your feelings for her, otherwise she controls you and how you feel.
AZ
I wouldn't tell her the depth of your feelings too soon or too often.
Don't let yourself get carried away with your feelings for her, otherwise she controls you and how you feel.
AZ
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
no....! first off falling should be changed with..rapid growth of an emotional attachment.
2nd. one-I-tis iis when a guy breaks is backbown..and gives into a women, he plays the role of a boyfriend..when in reality she is using him for whatever reason..and he doesnt see this
2nd. one-I-tis iis when a guy breaks is backbown..and gives into a women, he plays the role of a boyfriend..when in reality she is using him for whatever reason..and he doesnt see this