"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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im trying hard not to fall for an FB, in my previous thread i got some good advice on this matter, but what are some good ways of staying emotionally detached from somebody that you are intimate with, share everything with, and see very often..

i realized that im falling for her when i saw her with another guy, i broke off contact with her for a little bit, until she managed to reach me, crying and saying how much she needs me and how she didnt think it would hurt me etc...

i know i need to stay detached (if i want to continue the FB situation) or to just end the whole thing...

thanks for any input
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That sux you saw her with someone else. You may not be falling for her, but being territorial. I dont wanna see my FB's with anyone else, or even hear about it for that matter. Even though Im not attached, I dont wanna know about them and anyone else, and it does bother me. Its a man thing.

im trying hard not to fall for an FB, in my previous thread i got some good advice on this matter, but what are some good ways of staying emotionally detached from somebody that you are intimate with, share everything with, and see very often..

If you "share everything with, and see very often," its more than an FB thing.
You two need to have a talk, cuz she might want more too, if she was crying over you.
 

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agree with meet other woman. i say she's trouble. maby give it a week to see wut happens. but if she goes out with other guys all the time and is a flirt then **** it. you dont want the drama in your life. its bad karma
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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sav said:
im trying hard not to fall for an FB, in my previous thread i got some good advice on this matter, but what are some good ways of staying emotionally detached from somebody that you are intimate with, share everything with, and see very often..
Ummm, hate to tell you this but that isn't a FB. You're treating her as a GF and that's why you are falling for her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Either have the "talk" or meet more chicks. Is she your only FB? Youre not her only one obviously. You're both free to go for other people, so you cant be mad at her, but you have the right to cut off contact too. Or you can downgrade her to Bootycall status, meaning no contact unless your really horny. That should be no more than once, maybe twice a month.
 

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yeah that sounds good.


if you **** all the time, sooner or later one party will usually fall. dont let it be you if she's slutt'n out
 

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yeah well i got one of those after me ^^^

sucks balls
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Ummm, hate to tell you this but that isn't a FB. You're treating her as a GF and that's why you are falling for her.
Bingo! We have a winner!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Formidable Bachelor:up:

FB is only there for sex. You spend time with her, and after you nut you get out the door. More strings than that and you are in the trap, taking her to dinner putting clothes on her back.

I should be a musician!
 

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i have no problem meeting other women, i go out on dates all the time ... lately i have a diminished desire to see other women (other then her).

i'll have a serious chat with her, depending on how that goes, she's either out of my life, or fully in it...

thanks for the advice fella's... appreciate it..
 

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I came in her thinking the thread title was "Falling for a fat *****" LOL

Instead of HB
 

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I recently had a **** buddy, really hot chick... one of those bar chicks that seem to be connected to the scene, bar owners, promotion companies, etc... anyways, smoking hot, but I knew her M.O. , she's promiscious, she thinks she's really manipulative, but if you aren't putting that ***** on a pedestal her games crumble faaast lol... ANYWAYS..

She was giving me the "I really with you would call me more often, and come to my house!" or... "I don't want a boyfriend, you know, just someone that calls me and comes to my house, you know?" lol... The situation was great for me.. she'd call me nightly and come to my house to get banged the fvck out.. I even spent like 20 minutes on the phone arguing with her cause i was busy and didn't want to bone her one night... anyways... she gave me that ultimatum... and I peaced!

I stopped calling, I chilled... even when it was happening i gave her ice when she gave me emotions, learned her that she wasn't LTR material for me... she eventually stopped calling lol.... and you know what happened???

this ended in november

recently she MSN's me talking about how she wants to hook up and all that (games), i tell her to cut the BS and state her intentions, she tells me she has a new guy but shes always thinking about me etc and she realyl liked me when we were hooking up.... I tell her straight up i wasn't looking for a rltshp in nov, she gets all upset..

fvck her, she's a peice of a$$ and thats how I will always treat her

bottom line is... it's not a Fvck BUDDY if you are "intimate" and not in the sexual sense, in that emotional sense... you have to have ICE game to make sure you aren't leading these birds on, or just be honest... or you can be a d!ck and lie your face off and end up really hurting someone
 

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Hey Sav

I agree with woods. You should talk to her.

But first you should sit down and think what you really want.

Good luck bro.

JJ
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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