"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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im trying hard not to fall for an FB, in my previous thread i got some good advice on this matter, but what are some good ways of staying emotionally detached from somebody that you are intimate with, share everything with, and see very often..

i realized that im falling for her when i saw her with another guy, i broke off contact with her for a little bit, until she managed to reach me, crying and saying how much she needs me and how she didnt think it would hurt me etc...

i know i need to stay detached (if i want to continue the FB situation) or to just end the whole thing...

thanks for any input
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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That sux you saw her with someone else. You may not be falling for her, but being territorial. I dont wanna see my FB's with anyone else, or even hear about it for that matter. Even though Im not attached, I dont wanna know about them and anyone else, and it does bother me. Its a man thing.

im trying hard not to fall for an FB, in my previous thread i got some good advice on this matter, but what are some good ways of staying emotionally detached from somebody that you are intimate with, share everything with, and see very often..

If you "share everything with, and see very often," its more than an FB thing.
You two need to have a talk, cuz she might want more too, if she was crying over you.
 

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agree with meet other woman. i say she's trouble. maby give it a week to see wut happens. but if she goes out with other guys all the time and is a flirt then **** it. you dont want the drama in your life. its bad karma
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sav said:
im trying hard not to fall for an FB, in my previous thread i got some good advice on this matter, but what are some good ways of staying emotionally detached from somebody that you are intimate with, share everything with, and see very often..
Ummm, hate to tell you this but that isn't a FB. You're treating her as a GF and that's why you are falling for her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Either have the "talk" or meet more chicks. Is she your only FB? Youre not her only one obviously. You're both free to go for other people, so you cant be mad at her, but you have the right to cut off contact too. Or you can downgrade her to Bootycall status, meaning no contact unless your really horny. That should be no more than once, maybe twice a month.
 

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yeah that sounds good.


if you **** all the time, sooner or later one party will usually fall. dont let it be you if she's slutt'n out
 

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yeah well i got one of those after me ^^^

sucks balls
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Ummm, hate to tell you this but that isn't a FB. You're treating her as a GF and that's why you are falling for her.
Bingo! We have a winner!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Formidable Bachelor:up:

FB is only there for sex. You spend time with her, and after you nut you get out the door. More strings than that and you are in the trap, taking her to dinner putting clothes on her back.

I should be a musician!
 

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i have no problem meeting other women, i go out on dates all the time ... lately i have a diminished desire to see other women (other then her).

i'll have a serious chat with her, depending on how that goes, she's either out of my life, or fully in it...

thanks for the advice fella's... appreciate it..
 

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I came in her thinking the thread title was "Falling for a fat *****" LOL

Instead of HB
 

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I recently had a **** buddy, really hot chick... one of those bar chicks that seem to be connected to the scene, bar owners, promotion companies, etc... anyways, smoking hot, but I knew her M.O. , she's promiscious, she thinks she's really manipulative, but if you aren't putting that ***** on a pedestal her games crumble faaast lol... ANYWAYS..

She was giving me the "I really with you would call me more often, and come to my house!" or... "I don't want a boyfriend, you know, just someone that calls me and comes to my house, you know?" lol... The situation was great for me.. she'd call me nightly and come to my house to get banged the fvck out.. I even spent like 20 minutes on the phone arguing with her cause i was busy and didn't want to bone her one night... anyways... she gave me that ultimatum... and I peaced!

I stopped calling, I chilled... even when it was happening i gave her ice when she gave me emotions, learned her that she wasn't LTR material for me... she eventually stopped calling lol.... and you know what happened???

this ended in november

recently she MSN's me talking about how she wants to hook up and all that (games), i tell her to cut the BS and state her intentions, she tells me she has a new guy but shes always thinking about me etc and she realyl liked me when we were hooking up.... I tell her straight up i wasn't looking for a rltshp in nov, she gets all upset..

fvck her, she's a peice of a$$ and thats how I will always treat her

bottom line is... it's not a Fvck BUDDY if you are "intimate" and not in the sexual sense, in that emotional sense... you have to have ICE game to make sure you aren't leading these birds on, or just be honest... or you can be a d!ck and lie your face off and end up really hurting someone
 

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Hey Sav

I agree with woods. You should talk to her.

But first you should sit down and think what you really want.

Good luck bro.

JJ
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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