"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Falling at the final hurdle

loonyjuice

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Ok, I've read the bible and some very enlightening posts on here, it's improved my game no end, and I thank you all for that. I seem to have no problem getting women interested in me, talking, touching etc, but I just don't know how to close the deal, or essentially, completely sweep her off her feet.

We went out to a club last weekend and a friend of mine, whom had never been in this club before, was kissing 3 girls within seconds of seeing them, and I just want to know how he's doing it. Some of them were very nice, and he was drunk at the time!

By comparison, I see to make friends and slowly build up to kissing, but it never really takes off, and I can sometimes sense I should be doing something, but I don't, and I don't know why!

I know I sound pathetic, but I'm still an AFC trying to break free.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kineti[C]harm

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How goodlooking is your friend? And why didn't you ask him what he said/did or why didn't you pick up on it?
 

loonyjuice

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Ok, he was more of an aquaintence than a friend, he doesn't seem all that intelligent, but he does have a tan (I read somewhere it makes a difference)?

I did sort of joke to him about it, but he never let on what he did, although being drunk may have something to do with it.
 

diablo

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Having a tan in and of itself isn't going to make girls instantly get wet. My best guess would be that it's a combination of smart-ass'edness along with alcohol. Usually those 2 in conjunction with one another lead to some interesting experiences.
 

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He probably had the "confidence" that being drunk can give you and if he is good looking may get away with having little game but by his actions i.e just not giving damn, went for the kiss and got it.

You just need more confidence to move it to the next level, its one thing being able to talk to girls but its another talking to them while showing them that you are the prize and the man. That takes an inner-belief, and in a club situation you really do not have time to demonstrate through words your manliness and power, you have to act otherwise you will end up being the "nice guy". So in future, use your attitude, C + F (or whatever works for oyu) then either move it to the next level by going for the kiss close or get the number and split, what have you really got to lose? You will be doing yourself a favour by either getting with that girl or freeing yourself upto approach others by not wasting your time talking "nice" to a girl who has low IL (unless you enjoy the challenge but then I don't think you would of posted this question)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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