"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Falling at the final hurdle

loonyjuice

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Ok, I've read the bible and some very enlightening posts on here, it's improved my game no end, and I thank you all for that. I seem to have no problem getting women interested in me, talking, touching etc, but I just don't know how to close the deal, or essentially, completely sweep her off her feet.

We went out to a club last weekend and a friend of mine, whom had never been in this club before, was kissing 3 girls within seconds of seeing them, and I just want to know how he's doing it. Some of them were very nice, and he was drunk at the time!

By comparison, I see to make friends and slowly build up to kissing, but it never really takes off, and I can sometimes sense I should be doing something, but I don't, and I don't know why!

I know I sound pathetic, but I'm still an AFC trying to break free.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Kineti[C]harm

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How goodlooking is your friend? And why didn't you ask him what he said/did or why didn't you pick up on it?
 

loonyjuice

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Ok, he was more of an aquaintence than a friend, he doesn't seem all that intelligent, but he does have a tan (I read somewhere it makes a difference)?

I did sort of joke to him about it, but he never let on what he did, although being drunk may have something to do with it.
 

diablo

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Having a tan in and of itself isn't going to make girls instantly get wet. My best guess would be that it's a combination of smart-ass'edness along with alcohol. Usually those 2 in conjunction with one another lead to some interesting experiences.
 

The_King

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He probably had the "confidence" that being drunk can give you and if he is good looking may get away with having little game but by his actions i.e just not giving damn, went for the kiss and got it.

You just need more confidence to move it to the next level, its one thing being able to talk to girls but its another talking to them while showing them that you are the prize and the man. That takes an inner-belief, and in a club situation you really do not have time to demonstrate through words your manliness and power, you have to act otherwise you will end up being the "nice guy". So in future, use your attitude, C + F (or whatever works for oyu) then either move it to the next level by going for the kiss close or get the number and split, what have you really got to lose? You will be doing yourself a favour by either getting with that girl or freeing yourself upto approach others by not wasting your time talking "nice" to a girl who has low IL (unless you enjoy the challenge but then I don't think you would of posted this question)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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