"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Fake Tan

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Wasn't 100% on where to post this, looks like Health and Fitness appeared to fit the bill most.

So I'm fed up of being pale. I have a very light complexion and don't tan easily at all and with summer approaching I thought I'd look into the confusing world of fake tans. What brand(s) would you reccomend to someone such as myself? Are there any particular side effects to fake tanning?

Thanks in advance
Adam
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't think anything's wrong with it, just make sure you apply it evenly. Definitely a lot safer than the real thing.

I'm fair skinned too, and I recommend just getting in shape and being comfortable in your own skin. Don't worry about being tan. Leave that to the women.
 

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speed dawg said:
Don't worry about being tan. Leave that to the women.

Then laugh at their premature wrinkles in their 30s and 40s. Or at 27 or 28.
 

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that stuff turned me orange one time.
tried the spray tan, and it was great, until it rained and it streaked!
 

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Summer's approaching eh? I thought it was already here ;)
I find just playing sports outside, or doing yardwork without my shirt works on getting rid of my farmer's tan in no time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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penkitten said:
that stuff turned me orange one time.
tried the spray tan, and it was great, until it rained and it streaked!
Yeah I was eating at friendlies (a restaurant those not familiar) with my coworkers when I noticed one of the female servers must have used some spray tan stuff too.. and it looked bad. She could have been the mascot for Florida oranges. :D
 

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Kidfabulous said:
Summer's approaching eh? I thought it was already here ;)
Not over here in sunny 'ole England :yawn:

I do appreciate the fact that staining my skin a darker colour will not, in the long run, make me any more...self acceptant shall we say. As I say though, while I'm not albino, I do have light skin - I don't tan, I burn :)p). I'm not looking for anything drastic here, not by any means, just something to take away the edge of pastyness from my complexion (despite my current state of healthiness) simply for some short term confidence boost, I guess. It is undeniable a healthy looking tan is more attractive.

Anyone have any specific brands they could reccomend, as, unsurprisingly, I want to avoid streaky, orange 'tans' at all costs. I heard Nivea do some pretty good, 'mild' stuff - not sure if you have that over in the states?
 

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Those spray-on tans can be spotted a mile away. It's summer, get out in the sun. Just make sure you throw on some SPF 8 so you get a safe, gradual tan instead of frying. Heck, even the electric beach in moderation is better than a "tan from a can".
 

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Dude, I use L'Oreal Sublime Bronze every other day on my face, neck, and arms. Using it every other day gives me a light tan. I researched the active ingredient (all fake tanners use the same active ingredient) and it is FDA-ok'd... just keep it off your lips and eyelids. Much safer than a real tan or a tanning bed. In fact, according to the FDA, it is 100% safe.

Used in moderation, it looks natural and generally does not come off with sweat or water. If you use it too much (i.e., everyday) you will look too tan (do a google seach on Charlie Crist, governor of Florida to see what I mean) and the stuff will come off much more easily.

It works by dying your dead skins cells, and that is why you need to use it every other day to maintain it.
 

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tihash said:
Dude, I use L'Oreal Sublime Bronze every other day on my face, neck, and arms. Using it every other day gives me a light tan. I researched the active ingredient (all fake tanners use the same active ingredient) and it is FDA-ok'd... just keep it off your lips and eyelids. Much safer than a real tan or a tanning bed. In fact, according to the FDA, it is 100% safe.

Used in moderation, it looks natural and generally does not come off with sweat or water. If you use it too much (i.e., everyday) you will look too tan (do a google seach on Charlie Crist, governor of Florida to see what I mean) and the stuff will come off much more easily.

It works by dying your dead skins cells, and that is why you need to use it every other day to maintain it.
Great. Thanks alot mate; exactly the kind of advice I was looking for.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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