"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fake Tan

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Wasn't 100% on where to post this, looks like Health and Fitness appeared to fit the bill most.

So I'm fed up of being pale. I have a very light complexion and don't tan easily at all and with summer approaching I thought I'd look into the confusing world of fake tans. What brand(s) would you reccomend to someone such as myself? Are there any particular side effects to fake tanning?

Thanks in advance
Adam
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I don't think anything's wrong with it, just make sure you apply it evenly. Definitely a lot safer than the real thing.

I'm fair skinned too, and I recommend just getting in shape and being comfortable in your own skin. Don't worry about being tan. Leave that to the women.
 

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speed dawg said:
Don't worry about being tan. Leave that to the women.

Then laugh at their premature wrinkles in their 30s and 40s. Or at 27 or 28.
 

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that stuff turned me orange one time.
tried the spray tan, and it was great, until it rained and it streaked!
 

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Summer's approaching eh? I thought it was already here ;)
I find just playing sports outside, or doing yardwork without my shirt works on getting rid of my farmer's tan in no time.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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penkitten said:
that stuff turned me orange one time.
tried the spray tan, and it was great, until it rained and it streaked!
Yeah I was eating at friendlies (a restaurant those not familiar) with my coworkers when I noticed one of the female servers must have used some spray tan stuff too.. and it looked bad. She could have been the mascot for Florida oranges. :D
 

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Kidfabulous said:
Summer's approaching eh? I thought it was already here ;)
Not over here in sunny 'ole England :yawn:

I do appreciate the fact that staining my skin a darker colour will not, in the long run, make me any more...self acceptant shall we say. As I say though, while I'm not albino, I do have light skin - I don't tan, I burn :)p). I'm not looking for anything drastic here, not by any means, just something to take away the edge of pastyness from my complexion (despite my current state of healthiness) simply for some short term confidence boost, I guess. It is undeniable a healthy looking tan is more attractive.

Anyone have any specific brands they could reccomend, as, unsurprisingly, I want to avoid streaky, orange 'tans' at all costs. I heard Nivea do some pretty good, 'mild' stuff - not sure if you have that over in the states?
 

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Those spray-on tans can be spotted a mile away. It's summer, get out in the sun. Just make sure you throw on some SPF 8 so you get a safe, gradual tan instead of frying. Heck, even the electric beach in moderation is better than a "tan from a can".
 

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Dude, I use L'Oreal Sublime Bronze every other day on my face, neck, and arms. Using it every other day gives me a light tan. I researched the active ingredient (all fake tanners use the same active ingredient) and it is FDA-ok'd... just keep it off your lips and eyelids. Much safer than a real tan or a tanning bed. In fact, according to the FDA, it is 100% safe.

Used in moderation, it looks natural and generally does not come off with sweat or water. If you use it too much (i.e., everyday) you will look too tan (do a google seach on Charlie Crist, governor of Florida to see what I mean) and the stuff will come off much more easily.

It works by dying your dead skins cells, and that is why you need to use it every other day to maintain it.
 

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tihash said:
Dude, I use L'Oreal Sublime Bronze every other day on my face, neck, and arms. Using it every other day gives me a light tan. I researched the active ingredient (all fake tanners use the same active ingredient) and it is FDA-ok'd... just keep it off your lips and eyelids. Much safer than a real tan or a tanning bed. In fact, according to the FDA, it is 100% safe.

Used in moderation, it looks natural and generally does not come off with sweat or water. If you use it too much (i.e., everyday) you will look too tan (do a google seach on Charlie Crist, governor of Florida to see what I mean) and the stuff will come off much more easily.

It works by dying your dead skins cells, and that is why you need to use it every other day to maintain it.
Great. Thanks alot mate; exactly the kind of advice I was looking for.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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