"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Failed **** Test Badly, salvage?

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Gf texted:
GF: Move ur bday plz as its very inconvenient ;)
ME: Good
GF: Nope its terrible. May just accidently forget it
ME: Not convinced
-next message instantly replied, obvious **** test-
GF: Not trying to convince u
3 hrs later as was at work after attempted to turn it around with next text
ME: Gd cos i like the date
GF: Weirdo ;)

NC initiated to regain some ground. BUT i have already planned to see her on a day, and so will av to be the first to initiate what time in the day im picking her up.

Any advice how to salvage, as me continuing NC will make me look butt hurt if i just ignore the plan made to pick her up, from wot i can see its a lose lose situation now
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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pipe007

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dude are you like 10??
this was not a test.. just random playing around on her part cuz she was probably bored....

no normal human being would make another person postpone their birthday... and if you fail this.. oh well you are beyond AFC

the only part when she may have tested you is when she said
Her: I might forget your birthday
to which I would have replied:
ME: "who are you again?"

you failed.
 

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pipe007 said:
dude are you like 10??
this was not a test.. just random playing around on her part cuz she was probably bored....

no normal human being would make another person postpone their birthday... and if you fail this.. oh well you are beyond AFC

the only part when she may have tested you is when she said
Her: I might forget your birthday
to which I would have replied:
ME: "who are you again?"

you failed.
It turned into one when me saying "Im not convinced" and her INSTANTLY replying "Im not trying to convince you"

3 hours go by me not replying (which made me look like im sulking)
Then i reply, attempted to turn it around by replying "Gd cos i like the date" which completely changes everything of the convo and the frame off the "i might forget ur bday" part of the text

3 hours later she replies "weirdo ;)"
 

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i think she was playing around too.

Not everything that confuses you is a sh!t test!!!

Reading this site may make it hard to believe that, but believe it or not, girls do have personalities, they can be quirky, funny, playful and they dont mind if you make fun of them, as long as you can take it and roll with it when they do the same to you!!

The only thing tested here was your sense of humor, and how you respond to a little banter!

NEWSFLASH!!! - this girl texted you about your birthday. shes thinking about you, more importantly an event in your life that she expects to be a part of

maybe she had some new plans arrive -then she remembered your birthday
she texted you, to let you know this

why is it inconvenient? if it didnt matter to her, then she would carry on with her own plans, and noy joke about forgetting it.

You're getting butthurt over a compliment. read between the lines.

Peace.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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lol at OP after reading pipe and purefilth's comments. lol. OP she is your girlfriend. she initiated contact. and even gave u a wink. what's the prob?

ah well.
 

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pipe007 said:
dude are you like 10??
this was not a test.. just random playing around on her part cuz she was probably bored....

no normal human being would make another person postpone their birthday... and if you fail this.. oh well you are beyond AFC

the only part when she may have tested you is when she said
Her: I might forget your birthday
to which I would have replied:
ME: "who are you again?"

you failed.
this
 

cordoncordon

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Gf texted:
GF: Move ur bday plz as its very inconvenient ;)
ME: Good
GF: Nope its terrible. May just accidently forget it
ME: Not convinced
-next message instantly replied, obvious **** test-
GF: Not trying to convince u
3 hrs later as was at work after attempted to turn it around with next text
ME: Gd cos i like the date
GF: Weirdo ;)

NC initiated to regain some ground. BUT i have already planned to see her on a day, and so will av to be the first to initiate what time in the day im picking her up.

Any advice how to salvage, as me continuing NC will make me look butt hurt if i just ignore the plan made to pick her up, from wot i can see its a lose lose situation now
This convo doesn't really make any sense, and I don't know what you are trying to salvage. From what I can tell, she was just teasing you. Relax.
 
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