"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi everyone, I'm relatively new to this thread, I'd like to ask u guys a question and advice.
I've been in contact with this girl on facebook, I gave her my number to call me, and she called me, we spoke for 20 min, just regular stuff u know, and then I ended the call telling her I had to go, so here's the question, when should I contact her again? Or maybe I shouldn't contact her at all and just wait for her to contact me? Thanks in advance
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You currently have a bigger problem than 'when to call her'.

What do you want from this girl? If you want a facebook friend or a phone buddy, you're on the right track. If you want anything that requires you to meet her in person, you've just missed a great opportunity to meet her.

Assuming you want to meet her. You should have some sort of idea were to take her before you talk to each other on the phone. Then when the first phone call happens you make your plan of meeting her happen.

Anyway, I don't know how attracted she is or if she's friendzoned you, the only way to find that out is ask her out and see how she respons.
 

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call her whenever you have something in particular(I.E NOT idle, aimless chit chat) to say, otherwise wait for her to call you
 

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Tnx for the replies, but there's something to it, that she's very isolated by her parents and she told me she doesn't want them to throw her outta house, she was very scared when she spoke to me when her parents weren't home, seems like she wants to explode and meet some guy to have fun with, she wouldn't give out her private info or place of residence anyway
 

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1. Ditch Facebook!

2. Text her when you want. If she wants your piece, she'll want your piece, all other stuff is irrelevant unless you screw up.

3. Bang her and make a break for it. Never, ever commit and never ever stick around to see the consequences of your actions.

But, yeah ditch Facebook, it's no good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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