"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
facebook update good or bad?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Granted, there are people who tend to be a caricature of themselves and aim to be so left-field on what's "acceptable".Conquer said:
Personally I think everyone that puts one of the following on their status are lame:
a) What you are doing - I don't give a ****
b) A religious quote - I don't care about your pretentious beliefs
c) Using it to vent personal problems - Talk to a friend or hire a therapist
d) Song lyrics/Emo phrases - Unoriginal and lame
Personally I use it for humorous off the wall comments. I aim for offensive, I aim for hilarity, I am for controversy. I don't take it seriously, and neither should anyone else.
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Yeah, everyone is so predictable with their updates and once in awhile I post something off the wall that gets me laughs. And since the majority of my friends are women 25 and above, I know they're sex drive is high, but most of the guys are rather timid and blah with their posts trying not to offend.FirefighterMD said:
One of my female friends took the "how often do you need sex test" and I commented under her results "that after having sex with my girlfriend, one hour later I'm jacking off in the shower." After that comment, then I noticed her friend post a Christmas gathering video of them and her receiving a vibrator, and her other friends start talking about her "ass being sore" when before none of them would even come remotely close to using such words.
So I'm thinking that post might get me a laugh and loosen up the girls and make them think I'm a guy that has balls to even post such a thing, and probably keep them thinking of me. Not to be conceded but I think my pics look pretty handsome and have had good comments from the ladies.
So Firefighter would you post such a thing just to screw with their heads?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well sometimes being being silly gets the girl. If you watched the movie "Big" with Tom Hanks, He won a sophisticated full grown woman away from a successful full grown man of this world. It was because his silly boyish behavior brought out the little girl that's hidden in every adult female. The little girl that wants to come out to play.amoka said:
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Movie bro...remember it's a MOVIE.jacob said:
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lol. my ex was an store manager and exotic dancer and was courted by business men, me I have nothing, I ride a bike, work part time and live at home with my parents. She was sophisticated and headstrong, alot of these successful guys bought her anything she wanted, but she chose me because I was silly and playful and made her comfortable. She bought ME stuff, she moved into my house with horrible living conditions and we effed like porn stars for over a year. All because, I acted different from your typical adult male. So it does work in real life.Desert Fox said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Speaking of updates though. I hate it when people post updates 4-5 times a day. I am going to the mall, i am going to work, i am bored, i had a great day, i am going to party tonight, i am hanging out w my friends, i cant sleep, i just ate some good food, blah blah blah. WTF do we need to know everything you doing every minute. I have friends that have iphone and do this all the time its so annoying!
Personally i could care less about facebook and i check it maybe once a week and post an update maybe once a month. While i can understand that girls might do this because they want attention but i have seen many of my guy friends doing it too. To me its like trying to be cool over the internet. Its like they are trying to say that they are social and they do stuff all the time.
Then I checked again and first response was a female "Just like the crops on Farm Town if you don't harvest them LOL!" so I know I made her crack up, the response I was hoping to get. Then another comment from a female "That's funny. LOL" and finally one more from a guy "THERE MUST BE ONE CHICK THAT NEEDS ONE ON FACEBOOK!!JUST LET THE SNAKE LOOSE IN (hometown)!! LOL
I ain't going fret what the others think but hopefully they got a laugh like the ones who commented.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.