timmylivingalie
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Anybody got a good opener for a late 40's hb8 on facebook? I do not the woman at all.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Facebook opener?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
expos
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Man...I don't know...timmylivingalie said:
I think generally Facebook is bad place to try to make a move on a woman. I tried only once and it didn't work out and left me feeling creepy, so I vowed never to do it again...no matter how hot the prospect.
Facebook profiles are generally a person's virtual turf. It's not their dating profile. I almost equate it to walking onto someone's property, knocking on their door, and flirting with them completely out of the blue.
Do you not know any of the people she is friends with? If not, you have no way in unless you really want to reach out - but prepared to be rejected or possibly blocked.
Put it this way, I'd be even leary of a women Facebook messaging me. That takes a lot of effort and I be very concerned of the motive.
Sorry man...I just don't think it's worth it.
tryst type
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I agree with expos, I used to try gaming chicks on fb and its a VERY slippery slope into being called/classified as a creepy guy. Not to mention if she knows people you do she'll most certainly inform them and embellish it only to make you come off as a creep even more.
If you must though, the safest and most inconspicuous way is to send a friend request and then a message saying something like "I thought you were someone else I know, now I'm confused.. Have we met?"
Gauge her response and act accordingly.
If you must though, the safest and most inconspicuous way is to send a friend request and then a message saying something like "I thought you were someone else I know, now I'm confused.. Have we met?"
Gauge her response and act accordingly.
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
Try the High School forum, they'll probably know.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
^^ This.plate's_empty said:
Facebook? Seriously? Get this weak sh*t outta here.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.