Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I dont got a car anymore bro, haha. I gotta figure something out when im not relying on my friends.Iceberg said:This Facebook stuff kills me. I've never done online dating, but if Facebook were at least a dating site, I could understand. But it's a social networking site.
Let's get this straight...So first you find the girl you like, then you become her "friend" (so you're already in the friend zone)....then she reads your interesting and alluring profile...the same one that your aunts, uncles, and coworkers read (as Facebook is NOT a dating site), and yet somehow thru all this, your girl is supposed to be so thrilled with you that she wants to meet you and date you.
Nothing personal, if this is your thing and you know how to make it work, more power to you. It just seems like it'll take months of conversation to build the level of interest that you could get from one encounter in a coffee shop, gym, bar, or bookstore with a real woman face-to-face.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No prob broParadox said:Thanks for the guide. I was going to ask the posters to write one.
This is a great recap of what online DJ's have been saying.
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