"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Facebook Game. Step By Step Guide
- Thread starter Crissco
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
This Facebook stuff kills me. I've never done online dating, but if Facebook were at least a dating site, I could understand. But it's a social networking site.
Let's get this straight...So first you find the girl you like, then you become her "friend" (so you're already in the friend zone)....then she reads your interesting and alluring profile...the same one that your aunts, uncles, and coworkers read (as Facebook is NOT a dating site), and yet somehow thru all this, your girl is supposed to be so thrilled with you that she wants to meet you and date you.
Nothing personal, if this is your thing and you know how to make it work, more power to you. It just seems like it'll take months of conversation to build the level of interest that you could get from one encounter in a coffee shop, gym, bar, or bookstore with a real woman face-to-face.
Let's get this straight...So first you find the girl you like, then you become her "friend" (so you're already in the friend zone)....then she reads your interesting and alluring profile...the same one that your aunts, uncles, and coworkers read (as Facebook is NOT a dating site), and yet somehow thru all this, your girl is supposed to be so thrilled with you that she wants to meet you and date you.
Nothing personal, if this is your thing and you know how to make it work, more power to you. It just seems like it'll take months of conversation to build the level of interest that you could get from one encounter in a coffee shop, gym, bar, or bookstore with a real woman face-to-face.
CarlitosWay
Master Don Juan
Yeah it's great for just socializing and poking fun at chics you already have something going on with. Yet to actually pick up girls from that...ummm no.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
