what do yuo do when your eyes meet with another girl's? it seems to happen a lot to me and most the time i look away cause idk what else i should do..it happens most when im working at the restruant i work at,i bus tables and make eye contact with a lot of people but idk,i just tend to look away and look like im busy haha. but in general what do you do when you make eye contact with a random girl?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I agree since you are working at a resturant they will think that you are busy and if you go over and talk to them they will be like totally into you. Everybody likes the waiter or bus boy that has time to talk to them. Of course I would only talk with them to improve my skills.
NYC Dude
Master Don Juan
Hold eye contact, and after a short while (as in when you would normally look away), smile. If she's interested, she'll smile back. That's your cue to initiate a conversation.
Stratocaster
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Always hold the eye contact into the 'uncomfortable zone' until she looks away. This establishes that you are not a little b!tch.
Smiling is also good.
Smiling is also good.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
UltimateScoundrel
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I know a few people who hold eyecontact for way too long. It's not impressive, just creepy.
Look at her, smile, maybe nod a bit, and get back to work. Don't stare her down.
ight man! well first off you are suppose to be the last one who holds the eye contact!!! remeber this...chumps look down(because there daseled by there beauty) so just hold eye contact! and if she stairs at you then look around her....then find your way back to looking at her....if she is still looking back! then she definity wants u...so walk over there and start some convo! trust me...it will be a brease!.. good luck man
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You want to avoid eye contact at all possible costs. Looking someone in the eye only means one thing. It means you're ready to throw hands. If you look at any part of the body except for directly at the eyes, you'll come off as someone who isn't interested in her body. Women are self consious of their bodies. Moreso that their face.
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
dont stare her down like a starving wolf at a lamb, that creeps them out
look over, eye contact, eye contact returned, smile, smile returned (or not) maintain eyecontact while returning to what your doing, break eye contact
approach when you have the time
look over, eye contact, eye contact returned, smile, smile returned (or not) maintain eyecontact while returning to what your doing, break eye contact
approach when you have the time
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
buddy, your a joke
read the bible before you post again
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.