what do yuo do when your eyes meet with another girl's? it seems to happen a lot to me and most the time i look away cause idk what else i should do..it happens most when im working at the restruant i work at,i bus tables and make eye contact with a lot of people but idk,i just tend to look away and look like im busy haha. but in general what do you do when you make eye contact with a random girl?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I agree since you are working at a resturant they will think that you are busy and if you go over and talk to them they will be like totally into you. Everybody likes the waiter or bus boy that has time to talk to them. Of course I would only talk with them to improve my skills.
NYC Dude
Master Don Juan
Hold eye contact, and after a short while (as in when you would normally look away), smile. If she's interested, she'll smile back. That's your cue to initiate a conversation.
Stratocaster
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Always hold the eye contact into the 'uncomfortable zone' until she looks away. This establishes that you are not a little b!tch.
Smiling is also good.
Smiling is also good.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
UltimateScoundrel
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I know a few people who hold eyecontact for way too long. It's not impressive, just creepy.
Look at her, smile, maybe nod a bit, and get back to work. Don't stare her down.
ight man! well first off you are suppose to be the last one who holds the eye contact!!! remeber this...chumps look down(because there daseled by there beauty) so just hold eye contact! and if she stairs at you then look around her....then find your way back to looking at her....if she is still looking back! then she definity wants u...so walk over there and start some convo! trust me...it will be a brease!.. good luck man
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You want to avoid eye contact at all possible costs. Looking someone in the eye only means one thing. It means you're ready to throw hands. If you look at any part of the body except for directly at the eyes, you'll come off as someone who isn't interested in her body. Women are self consious of their bodies. Moreso that their face.
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
dont stare her down like a starving wolf at a lamb, that creeps them out
look over, eye contact, eye contact returned, smile, smile returned (or not) maintain eyecontact while returning to what your doing, break eye contact
approach when you have the time
look over, eye contact, eye contact returned, smile, smile returned (or not) maintain eyecontact while returning to what your doing, break eye contact
approach when you have the time
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
buddy, your a joke
read the bible before you post again
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.