What are you supposed to do when your walking down the sidewalk by yourself and three girls are coming down towards you? Should you pick one girl and keep the eye contact on her? Also, is it true that the man should never be the first to break the eye contact?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Lol no staring contests bro. Make eye contact when it's appropriate and when you want to convey a strong emotional message, you don't have to stare people down.
DonJuanit0
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You are supposed to have eye contact with a person because you want to! Not because you have to! It's not a contest as senor Juan said! If you manage to keep eye contact it's ok but if not, nothing really happened! As for seeing three girls on the sidewalk, yes, I would look everyone in the eyes and maintain eye contact with the nicest!
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I know exactly where the OP is coming from. EC with strangers is a tough game for me too, man.
Personally I rarely go outdoors without sunglasses on unless it's nighttime or raining. When I pass 3 hotties coming toward me on the sidewalk, personally I just pretend not to notice them and keep walking. What are you going to do, stop them in their paths to try and game all of them to go for the foursie?
Personally I rarely go outdoors without sunglasses on unless it's nighttime or raining. When I pass 3 hotties coming toward me on the sidewalk, personally I just pretend not to notice them and keep walking. What are you going to do, stop them in their paths to try and game all of them to go for the foursie?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Senor Juan
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Only if you look down and shuffle away staring at the pavement. Once you've made strong eye contact it's best give her the once over anyway.Energy25 said:
Vanilla
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Eye contact and flash a warm smile.
Generally, it shows confidence just to maintain eye contact for a few seconds. Just don't look away immediately, this shows insecurity.
In your scenario with the three girls, I would make eye contact with the 1 I find most attractive. When our eyes meet, I would smile. If she smiles back, I would say hi. She'll probably say hi too.
If you notice anything interesting about the interaction (they stop, she has a seductive tone, her friends start giggling, etc.) roll with it and see where it goes. If you do everything with confidence and charisma, you will at the very least get a positive interaction out of it.
In your scenario with the three girls, I would make eye contact with the 1 I find most attractive. When our eyes meet, I would smile. If she smiles back, I would say hi. She'll probably say hi too.
If you notice anything interesting about the interaction (they stop, she has a seductive tone, her friends start giggling, etc.) roll with it and see where it goes. If you do everything with confidence and charisma, you will at the very least get a positive interaction out of it.
Make eye contact with the one you like, and make sure to smile. Generally, as a rule, you maintain eye contact until the other person looks away, and then you look away. The message is sent that you noticed them, but you arent staring.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.