What are you supposed to do when your walking down the sidewalk by yourself and three girls are coming down towards you? Should you pick one girl and keep the eye contact on her? Also, is it true that the man should never be the first to break the eye contact?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
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Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
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Lol no staring contests bro. Make eye contact when it's appropriate and when you want to convey a strong emotional message, you don't have to stare people down.
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You are supposed to have eye contact with a person because you want to! Not because you have to! It's not a contest as senor Juan said! If you manage to keep eye contact it's ok but if not, nothing really happened! As for seeing three girls on the sidewalk, yes, I would look everyone in the eyes and maintain eye contact with the nicest!
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I know exactly where the OP is coming from. EC with strangers is a tough game for me too, man.
Personally I rarely go outdoors without sunglasses on unless it's nighttime or raining. When I pass 3 hotties coming toward me on the sidewalk, personally I just pretend not to notice them and keep walking. What are you going to do, stop them in their paths to try and game all of them to go for the foursie?
Personally I rarely go outdoors without sunglasses on unless it's nighttime or raining. When I pass 3 hotties coming toward me on the sidewalk, personally I just pretend not to notice them and keep walking. What are you going to do, stop them in their paths to try and game all of them to go for the foursie?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Only if you look down and shuffle away staring at the pavement. Once you've made strong eye contact it's best give her the once over anyway.Energy25 said:
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Eye contact and flash a warm smile.
Generally, it shows confidence just to maintain eye contact for a few seconds. Just don't look away immediately, this shows insecurity.
In your scenario with the three girls, I would make eye contact with the 1 I find most attractive. When our eyes meet, I would smile. If she smiles back, I would say hi. She'll probably say hi too.
If you notice anything interesting about the interaction (they stop, she has a seductive tone, her friends start giggling, etc.) roll with it and see where it goes. If you do everything with confidence and charisma, you will at the very least get a positive interaction out of it.
In your scenario with the three girls, I would make eye contact with the 1 I find most attractive. When our eyes meet, I would smile. If she smiles back, I would say hi. She'll probably say hi too.
If you notice anything interesting about the interaction (they stop, she has a seductive tone, her friends start giggling, etc.) roll with it and see where it goes. If you do everything with confidence and charisma, you will at the very least get a positive interaction out of it.
Make eye contact with the one you like, and make sure to smile. Generally, as a rule, you maintain eye contact until the other person looks away, and then you look away. The message is sent that you noticed them, but you arent staring.
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