"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Obsidian said:
good advice, but only if you're sure that you're not already smothering her
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True. So what it is OP are you being clingy? If you are being clingy that's a big no no.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My Name is Nobody said:
Real talk.

If a woman you are with ever disrespects you, she should be gone until she EARNS you back.

Ofcourse most of us are not like Francisco and have no other women around so we try and find ways to keep the same one even though that is AFC behavior.
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I will admit it's not a big deal when you have fallbacks. I will admit it took me a moment (just a moment) to get comfortable with the fact that she will probably have to start over at square one once she gets her head straight, she had been doing really well in proving her worth.

But Like you said, if she disrespects you she needs to earn your respect again. This one did, apologized the very next day and said she was going to get counseling. That may be the only reason that she still has a chance with me, even if it's slight. Not to many woman would admit to being flawed and seek out professional help in hopes to build some type of relationship after she heals herself.
 
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I will admit it's not a big deal when you have fallbacks. I will admit it took me a moment (just a moment) to get comfortable with the fact that she will probably have to start over at square one once she gets her head straight, she had been doing really well in proving her worth.

But Like you said, if she disrespects you she needs to earn your respect again. This one did, apologized the very next day and said she was going to get counseling. That may be the only reason that she still has a chance with me, even if it's slight. Not to many woman would admit to being flawed and seek out professional help in hopes to build some type of relationship after she heals herself.
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Nice. Apologized the next day.

I'm still waiting for apologies from quite a few women. I'm sure they will come any day now ;)
 
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Nice. Apologized the next day.

I'm still waiting for apologies from quite a few women. I'm sure they will come any day now ;)
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Oh yeah, and I bet you'll be sitting by the phone waiting.. :p
 
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its possible that she could just be a total basket case :)

either way, grab your balls from her purse and run
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ha, no it's not pms, and guys please forget personality disorders, she's a relatively normal girl. I think I may have been clingy, as well as not very interesting for a while, so I'm gonna give her some time. Should I wait for her to call first or not?
 
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My Name is Nobody said:
Real talk.

If a woman you are with ever disrespects you, she should be gone until she EARNS you back.

Ofcourse most of us are not like Francisco and have no other women around so we try and find ways to keep the same one even though that is AFC behavior.
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By the way, three weeks after the start of the hiatus I get another apology email asking what she can do to get back into my good graces. She also listed the things that she had done to settle herself (including getting professional help). It's things like this that allows me to keep her on the roster even though she's lost a couple of spots on the rotation. Not all women with issues are completely worth writing off.
 
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