"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My Name is Nobody

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Obsidian said:
good advice, but only if you're sure that you're not already smothering her
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True. So what it is OP are you being clingy? If you are being clingy that's a big no no.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My Name is Nobody said:
Real talk.

If a woman you are with ever disrespects you, she should be gone until she EARNS you back.

Ofcourse most of us are not like Francisco and have no other women around so we try and find ways to keep the same one even though that is AFC behavior.
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I will admit it's not a big deal when you have fallbacks. I will admit it took me a moment (just a moment) to get comfortable with the fact that she will probably have to start over at square one once she gets her head straight, she had been doing really well in proving her worth.

But Like you said, if she disrespects you she needs to earn your respect again. This one did, apologized the very next day and said she was going to get counseling. That may be the only reason that she still has a chance with me, even if it's slight. Not to many woman would admit to being flawed and seek out professional help in hopes to build some type of relationship after she heals herself.
 
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I will admit it's not a big deal when you have fallbacks. I will admit it took me a moment (just a moment) to get comfortable with the fact that she will probably have to start over at square one once she gets her head straight, she had been doing really well in proving her worth.

But Like you said, if she disrespects you she needs to earn your respect again. This one did, apologized the very next day and said she was going to get counseling. That may be the only reason that she still has a chance with me, even if it's slight. Not to many woman would admit to being flawed and seek out professional help in hopes to build some type of relationship after she heals herself.
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Nice. Apologized the next day.

I'm still waiting for apologies from quite a few women. I'm sure they will come any day now ;)
 
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Nice. Apologized the next day.

I'm still waiting for apologies from quite a few women. I'm sure they will come any day now ;)
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Oh yeah, and I bet you'll be sitting by the phone waiting.. :p
 
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its possible that she could just be a total basket case :)

either way, grab your balls from her purse and run
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ha, no it's not pms, and guys please forget personality disorders, she's a relatively normal girl. I think I may have been clingy, as well as not very interesting for a while, so I'm gonna give her some time. Should I wait for her to call first or not?
 
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My Name is Nobody said:
Real talk.

If a woman you are with ever disrespects you, she should be gone until she EARNS you back.

Ofcourse most of us are not like Francisco and have no other women around so we try and find ways to keep the same one even though that is AFC behavior.
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By the way, three weeks after the start of the hiatus I get another apology email asking what she can do to get back into my good graces. She also listed the things that she had done to settle herself (including getting professional help). It's things like this that allows me to keep her on the roster even though she's lost a couple of spots on the rotation. Not all women with issues are completely worth writing off.
 
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