"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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external confidence vs internal confidence

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So i've come out of my shell a little and now more people like me, i have more fun socially, and girls are starting to want me. this is giving me some confidence. However, i don't think i should be becoming confident because people like me or whatever. I think i should be confidence internally, but i have no ****ing clue how to do that. Any suggestions? Or am I wrong, and my confidence should be coming from the things i said?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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its like a cycle man

confidence only can come from within.. your projecting that onto other people and it is the problem. Or you are getting ****y which are 2 different things.

dont mess confidence for arroagance or ****y
 
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reachinside said:
its like a cycle man

confidence only can come from within.. your projecting that onto other people and it is the problem. Or you are getting ****y which are 2 different things.

dont mess confidence for arroagance or ****y
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so its alright if my confidence is coming from my social successes?
 
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Your confidence should come from within man, social success is just a reward, not the real thing.
 
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Daniel1982 said:
Your confidence should come from within man, social success is just a reward, not the real thing.
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alright.. i dont get how to get this confidence though. Like, i feel a lot more confident socially because i have been approaching strangers and improving my social skills. is that internal confidence?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Keep improving your social skills. Also try to practice some sport, or going to the gym, hang out with friends, do some new stuff. The thing is, to enrich you life with experiences.
 
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Keep improving your social skills. Also try to practice some sport, or going to the gym, hang out with friends, do some new stuff. The thing is, to enrich you life with experiences.
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alright, i think i getcha. the more things you experience the more confident you will become. Someone who goes out and drives a car all day is going to be more confident behind the wheel then somebody who just got their liscense. Is that kind of what you're saying?
 
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