external confidence vs internal confidence

[steve_erkle]

So i've come out of my shell a little and now more people like me, i have more fun socially, and girls are starting to want me. this is giving me some confidence. However, i don't think i should be becoming confident because people like me or whatever. I think i should be confidence internally, but i have no ****ing clue how to do that. Any suggestions? Or am I wrong, and my confidence should be coming from the things i said?

 

[reachinside]

its like a cycle man

confidence only can come from within.. your projecting that onto other people and it is the problem. Or you are getting ****y which are 2 different things.

dont mess confidence for arroagance or ****y

 

[steve_erkle]

its like a cycle man

confidence only can come from within.. your projecting that onto other people and it is the problem. Or you are getting ****y which are 2 different things.

dont mess confidence for arroagance or ****y

so its alright if my confidence is coming from my social successes?

 

[Daniel1982]

Your confidence should come from within man, social success is just a reward, not the real thing.

 

[steve_erkle]

Your confidence should come from within man, social success is just a reward, not the real thing.

alright.. i dont get how to get this confidence though. Like, i feel a lot more confident socially because i have been approaching strangers and improving my social skills. is that internal confidence?

 

[Daniel1982]

Keep improving your social skills. Also try to practice some sport, or going to the gym, hang out with friends, do some new stuff. The thing is, to enrich you life with experiences.

 

[steve_erkle]

Keep improving your social skills. Also try to practice some sport, or going to the gym, hang out with friends, do some new stuff. The thing is, to enrich you life with experiences.

alright, i think i getcha. the more things you experience the more confident you will become. Someone who goes out and drives a car all day is going to be more confident behind the wheel then somebody who just got their liscense. Is that kind of what you're saying?