onemorerobot
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My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ex's Birthday Coming Up
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
BacardiGuy
Senior Don Juan
She dumped you, forget her. If you so much as text her "happy birthday" consider your man card revoked.
onemorerobot
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This doesn't really have anything to do with oneitis. We both agreed that we'd stay friends.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
WC2
Master Don Juan
You're questioning us on what your own morals are. Do what you feel is right. While wishing her a happy birthday might feel humiliating, avoiding the whole ordeal will only reveal the reason behind it. Think about it.
Coolguy123
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She's the one that dumped you. No need to wish her a happy birthday.
Dude,
If you guys talked about things and you decided to stay friends, then the polite and normal thing to do is to simply get her a card and wish her happy birthday, in the same way you would do to any of your friends.
She isn't your arch enemy! She was your gf one day, and it sounds like it wasnt a bad breakup since you have decided to stay friends.
Infact, you should be glad that she has decided to break up with you rather than cheat on you.
So be a man, and very casually just wish her happy birthday and show her that you are a strong ALPHA MALE and it will take a lot more than a girl dumping you to bring you down!
If you guys talked about things and you decided to stay friends, then the polite and normal thing to do is to simply get her a card and wish her happy birthday, in the same way you would do to any of your friends.
She isn't your arch enemy! She was your gf one day, and it sounds like it wasnt a bad breakup since you have decided to stay friends.
Infact, you should be glad that she has decided to break up with you rather than cheat on you.
So be a man, and very casually just wish her happy birthday and show her that you are a strong ALPHA MALE and it will take a lot more than a girl dumping you to bring you down!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Why are you considering this? Do you regularly give birthday gifts to all of your friends?onemorerobot said:My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
Give her nothing more than a birthday card, or face the wrath of the sosuave forums :trouble:. lolonemorerobot said:My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.