"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ex's Birthday Coming Up

onemorerobot

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My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BacardiGuy

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She dumped you, forget her. If you so much as text her "happy birthday" consider your man card revoked.
 

hi2u

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Amen to that. It's obvious you have oneitis with her. Don't be fooled... she is probably already seeing someone else or has commited to singleness for a while (aka she hasn't found someone to sweep her off her feet).
 

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Yes it would be inappropriate. You shouldn't even contact her.
 

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This doesn't really have anything to do with oneitis. We both agreed that we'd stay friends.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You're questioning us on what your own morals are. Do what you feel is right. While wishing her a happy birthday might feel humiliating, avoiding the whole ordeal will only reveal the reason behind it. Think about it.
 

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She's the one that dumped you. No need to wish her a happy birthday.
 

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Dude,

If you guys talked about things and you decided to stay friends, then the polite and normal thing to do is to simply get her a card and wish her happy birthday, in the same way you would do to any of your friends.

She isn't your arch enemy! She was your gf one day, and it sounds like it wasnt a bad breakup since you have decided to stay friends.

Infact, you should be glad that she has decided to break up with you rather than cheat on you.

So be a man, and very casually just wish her happy birthday and show her that you are a strong ALPHA MALE and it will take a lot more than a girl dumping you to bring you down!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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onemorerobot said:
My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
Why are you considering this? Do you regularly give birthday gifts to all of your friends?
 

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onemorerobot said:
My girlfriend dumped me two days ago. Her bithday is on the fourteenth. Would it be inappropriate if I got her a gift?
Give her nothing more than a birthday card, or face the wrath of the sosuave forums :trouble:. lol
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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